How can I open up to people more even if it scares me?

Opening up to people can be nerve wrecking, but sometimes it is worth asking yourself what it is that scares you about it. Often we feel nervous because we have some sort of expectation of how the interaction should go, or what sort of outcome it should have, and then when things don't go as planned we feel upset, or like we have failed in some way. Also, past experiences of being hurt by someone you have opened up to can make you scared to open up to new people. I found starting small and working on my expectations really helped me open up.

It's often best to start off small finding someone you can trust, with a small topic that you want to tell them and go from there. I know it can be scary, however maybe by starting off small it will decrease your fear and how scared you are. I hope you find a way that works for you, this is how i learned to open up to people. By choosing the right people to open to at the begining until you are confident enough to just be open constantly. Choose understanding, loving people you can open to, people who has proven they care and won´t judge you for who you are, it sounds weird but there are many people in the world who just accept you for who you are.

While many people believe opening up or even talking to people is easy to do, there are many of us who have anxiety over such a thing. Taking small steps to open up is a great place to start. Opening up about certain things in our lives can be very scary, but also liberating, once we are able to do so. It can feel good to let someone else into our lives, but it is also understandable, the fear, that is associated with it. Starting with small snippets of information about my life, is how I dipped my toes in the water, and found it to be more helpful!

Approach someone who you trust and are close to, and believe that they have your best interests in mind. You can start off by sharing small parts of the story and wait to see how they react before continuing on and sharing more in depth with them. Hopefully they are reassuring to you, and actively listen to what you are saying. This can make you feel like a huge weight has lifted of your shoulders. By opening up to someone it should make you feel more relieved and less pressured as the proverbial saying goes 'a problem shared, is a problem halved'.

By understanding that you are a one of a kind person and great human being and if people don’t like you for who you are you shouldn’t want to be there friend anyway. By being yourself you can attract real friends who like you for you and not what you can do for them.sometimes the best thing you can do is work on your self in silence and not be worried about having friends and work on being the most successful version of you .By being yourself your setting your self up for real friends and people who care about you genuinely

Remember that when you open up, you are showing your true self. Everything that’s ever happened to you. You are embracing it and telling people when you open up, you are special no matter what you’ve been through. You could open up by remembering that you are taking a courageous step for yourself. You have to remember you are doing this for yourself. To improve yourself. When you open up it will help in your bravery. What happened in your past does not define you. You define yourself in every way you want. Find the courage within you and remember you are doing this for yourself, because you deserve to let some steam go.

From my own personal experience I learned that people cannot communicate effectively with me if I am not open and honest. My husband always said, "I am not psychic, you need to talk to me." I really took that heart and use it with my friends and family more often. If I am not communicating then I would be reacting with emotions and others could not understand why. Sure, opening up may not always be positive, but not doing it at all will usually end up having a negative effect. Also if someone else can learn something from me to take away then that is great. We are allowed to open up at our pace, so do not feel burdened in anyways , maybe start with parts of you that you are more comfortable sharing , initiating a supportive rapport can help establish comfort. Good luck .

When you are scared of something, a method that I learned is to work with a "scale of scariness." Write down on a sheet of paper numbers from 1 to 10 (1 means "not scary" and 10 means "so scared I am afraid to die"). Besides each number, write down situations that triggers this type of fear. For instance, a 1 (not scary), could be giving a compliment to someone that you know very well, for instance your parent. A 4 might be giving your opinion in a work meeting. A 7 would be to talk about your emotions. A 10 could be to open up about your childhood traumas to the love of your life. Now, the best thing to do could be to give you small challenges each week. For example, on the first week, you try to do the 1. Then on the second week, you try to achieve the 2. And on the tenth week, you try the 10. If you work this way, you desensitize yourself to your greatest fears very slowly.

First it's important to believe the opposite person. And more than that we should be wise in choosing the person we would like to open up with. For that, you can try talking openly to your family, to your best friends whom you can believe completely. We also should understand that not everything is meant to be shared to everyone. It is good that we keep some things for ourselves. But when the feelings are painful then sure you need to open up to someone. Opening up is like a burden being kept down or transferred. The more we start to believe and trust people, the more we'll feel free to share things.

You don't have to pressurise yourself to open up to someone. You can take your time. Be comfortable with the situation and the person. Once you build rapport with someone, you automatically gain confidence and will be able to share. But in any case of you do not want to share and you do not trust the space, you can always choose not to. If opening up is really neccesary for you, try communicating your emotions. Try telling the person that you are scared and probably need time to open up. Communication helps. The opposite person might understand and might try to make you comfortable.