How can I open up to people more even if it scares me?

Think about your goal rather the act of doing what you need to do to meet your goal. Life can be quite scary at times for many different reasons. It can also make us feel trapped due to the fear. Finding ways to eliminate that fear or at least make it more minuscule is important. That being said, one tactic I have found in helping me do that is thinking of my end goal. Thinking about where I want to be or where overcoming the barriers ahead will put me in the long run. Thinking about the big picture is very helpful in doing that. It gives you a sense of responsibility and purpose too. It is not always easy, but it always can be the difference that you need to remind yourself to make it.

I struggled with this so much its not even funny. It's hard to open up to people, especially if you haven't done it before. My advice is start with one person. Just one person you really trust. A person that you feel the closest to. Just one day text them "Hey I need to tell you something". Start off easy. Don't start off with the thing you're most scared to tell them. Ease yourself in and slowly, slowly you'll start to realize your fear of opening up will eventually go away. It'll be scary at first, but it will eventually get so much easier.

Opening up to people can be very hard sometimes. It can be scary to let your guard down and disclose information about yourself to someone. It, also, can be rewarding to open up to someone because it can create a connection and give you someone to help you in hard times. It can also hurt if someone takes advantage of this. When I want to open up to someone I think about the many rewards that come with it and how it allows me to not be alone and have someone who is there for me. I think about how it creates great relationships.

First of all, I read a fantastic book called Rising Strong, by Brené Brown. She discusses the process of becoming more vulnerable. Practises you can use to become yourself a more vulnerable person, and how it's beneficial. She touches on learning how to communicate better, and how to become a stronger person. I highly recommend it. My advice? Baby steps. Don't overshare. Start with people you trust - or complete strangers you'll never see again. Share how you're feeling. Share how things make you feel - music, film, art, the weather, holidays. If someone upsets you, don't internalise it, tell them. Being vulnerable means allowing yourself to trust, to love, to take someone else's advice and apply it your own life. You've already taking the first step - asking for help. That's admirable. You've already started down the path you want to be on. You're already succeeding. Be patient with yourself. Don't rush it. Try to push your boundaries, go a bit outside your comfort zone. But don't go so far as to antagonise yourself or be overwhelmed with anxiety. Understand that these things take time, and everyone has their own pace. With someone you trust, try sharing tidbits about your past or experiences, things you don't talk about. Maybe even something embarrassing that you can laugh about now. Most of all, be kind to yourself. Don't stress too much, that may cause you to clench up more. You're on this journey already. It's a lifelong process. Maybe even look at it as a quest, if that'll help. Maybe consider each side-quest as telling someone close to you something personal, a different thing to each person. The people in your life are there for you. We're here for you. You're there for you. Good luck and much love.

Firstly get to know more about this person by asking a lot of questions about them and genuinely being curious to know the answers. And once u find that you share similarities in your ways of thinking or even if your opinions differ, you can start by justifying your opinions. Once you see the other person opening up, it becomes 10 times more easier for you to open up as well.I had hard times with that and what helped me was trying with a complete stranger I will never see again... (while traveling or in new places) then slowly sharing small peaces with people around me, sometimes telling them that this is something I am telling them in confidence (small things can grow over time)

you just gotta to trust and make sure that you genuinely feel safe around that person, but then again being scared or afraid to let someone in because you did it once and they hurt you its gonna be a struggle. but so what they hurt yo but it dont mean everyone gonna be like that you gotta open up and see what/ who they are let them show you that they care let them be part of your life dont hold back because you will never know if you help out on something that couldve been something amazing that could save you and change you in a good way always be open but not to the point where you u know you gonna get hurt and still open up. open up to those who will care for you and love you for being you goodnight love you babes

Get to know those people and ask their opinions on things in general. Sense who they are and give them what you would want to get when they open up. Only open up to those who put you at ease.Take your time to get to know people. Open up about small things first. A person who tends to be very judgemental, come with an agenda, not listen well, not let you speak well, misunderstand many things you say, ridicule you for anything. They may not be that person to whom you need to open up. The right person is attentive, understanding, tolerant (within reason), and open minded.

You must find someone that you trust. Ask a lot of questions and communicate. Then you can start telling the person little things about you and you will see if he/she is really interested in you. Once you feel comfortable, you can start telling the person more important and bigger things about you. I also sometimes have a problem with that. When I tell someone something personal, I feel vulnerable and that nobody cares. But at the end you will see that you will be relieved and feel better. I know it can be scary, but you can do it!

This is such a great question and I am working on this myself!! How can you trust when you don't actually trust? First of all, we can acknowledge that it is self-abusive to force yourself to trust when you don't trust! It is better to come back to ourselves, and show kindness and gentleness to ourselves in the way we wish others would. Tich Nhat Hanh tells a story of a time when he left the windows open in his home, and when he returned his papers were blown all over the place, so he tidied them up, and lit a fire. I think our minds our similar. Stuff can get blown around, but we can simply tidy up and light the fire to make our mind cozy again. From that place we can rest from the pursuit of the outer world, and return when we feel rested again. This sort of self-love is something I am learning about and constantly evolving with, and ultimately I am opening up to myself to start. Other things that have helped me in the past: 1) learning journalling techniques. I particularly like the technique of writing down my fearful and resentful thoughts, and then my last line will be "thank you god" or "thank you universe" for hearing me and assisting me with these fears where I cannot. Then I sign it, and burn it out back. I learned about it here: https://youtu.be/3N_t0ZSvn_Y Another thing that has helped has been to be a part of group experiences. Reiki trades, social meditation practices, group coaching, group dance therapy, etc etc, whatever is being offered near me on online at the time. In a group, we come together to intentionally work together on issues we are facing, and some people feel more comfortable about certain aspects of being where often we do not, and visa versa. When they share their story or their thoughts, we suddenly feel as though we have PERMISSION to understand ourselves in that same way, and feel less alone. We feel naturally more open in these scenarios without having to really cross any of our own boundaries. Then lastly, a spiritual tool that really helps is CURIOSITY. When we feel constricted, it is because some thing feels threatening to us in a way we don't know how to control. Sometimes this is legitimate! It's pretty normal to feel like hey, I don't wanna open up to this person who is gonna use my story to judge me or make me feel worse. But in some cases, the person will be able to share a more expansive point of view without invalidating you. In other cases, we ourselves will be able to have compassion for a person who is small minded about our situation. In still other cases, it's perfectly fine to give up and go in a whole other direction. Recently, I felt totally shut down around a particular person, and it hurt greatly, but I knew trying to plow through wasn't going to work because I had already tried connecting with her. Instead I wound up on a hike listening to an audio book called "The Book of Joy." I really don't know if it would have been possible for me to have made a better decision or to be more open to her, but I certainly felt good that I was at least opening myself to quality information and moving forward anyways. I hope this helps?

You can't force yourself to open up to people if you're scared about it. But, don't rush, take your time, one step at a time until you get there. And also, please make sure that you've opened up to the right people because it's hard and traumatizing to open up to the wrong ones. But if you're really scared to open up more, you can just not do it. Don't force yourself because it will just add pressure on you but instead, take your time, just take your time. Condition yourself first, ready yourself, and if you're ready to open up more to people then that's it.