Will people stop bullying me if I lose weight?
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Updated: Jun 7, 2021
Anonymous
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Dec 28, 2014
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Definitely no. They'll just find something else to target regardless of what you do because that satisfy their needs to dominate over others. If you ever feel like losing weight, do it for yourself and your health because that's all that matters! You are what's important. Not them.
Anonymous
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Mar 21, 2015
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People could stop bullying you if you lose weight, but if you want to lose weight, lose it for you- not for what other people think of you!
JessInTechnicolour
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Apr 9, 2015
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There will always be people who try to judge you or make you feel badly about yourself. Generally these people are unhappy themselves and want to make sure everyone else is equally unhappy. Living your life according to what others think or to impress others is a guaranteed way to be unhappy. Losing weight will not stop people from judging you or finding something about you to criticize. Your weight or appearance does not define you. You are perfect as you are. Spend your energy focusing on the people that love you and value you. The people that matter will not care what you weigh. Be confident that you are a wonderful person and you deserve to be happy on your terms.
neverletlifetakeyourspark
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Apr 19, 2015
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It does not matter what others think of you, only what you think of yourself. What will being sad about someone calling you a name accomplish? Nothing. It doesn't matter what they say. If they call you names, that means they are the ones who need to rethink them self. Just ignore and do whatever makes you happy. As long as you eat healthy, it doesn't really matter. Don't let them get to you. Keep your head up and smile, sunshine.
Funfloor
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Apr 25, 2015
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No they will not stop bullying you if you lose weight. That is a simple and short answer to your question. Well bullying is not a good approach to encourage a person to lose weight. LOL
Brook
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Apr 25, 2015
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You shouldn't ever change yourself for other people. You should always stay true to yourself. You are amazing the way you are. Don't let others change your perspective on yourself.
Anonymous
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May 28, 2015
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Self confidence starts with changes to your thoughts not to your body. People will always try to bring you down, and if it's not for your weight then it will be for something else. It's hard to let the haters roll off your back like water, but it can be learned! It's wrong that we have to work to change our thoughts to accommodate for their nastiness, but if we can learn to accept that their words are only words, and stop fueling their fire, then maybe one day they can learn to be kinder to others.
Waterbear
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Jun 14, 2015
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They might, but it's unlikely unless you suddenly get a new group of friends. Bullies may use fat as an excuse, but they're really bullying you because they can get away with it--that is, because you're in a vulnerable position and don't have friends to back you up. Also, weight loss is almost always temporary, and most of the ways you'd use to go about it will be unhealthy in the long run.
smilejade
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Jul 13, 2015
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Do not feel like you have to change for people, you are your own person... And bullies get a kick out of doing picking at peoples insecurities so that they will do what they want them to do. Its hard not to do what your brain tells you because you want the bullying to stop so you'll do anything to make it stop, but if you was to lose weight they'd find something else to pick at, I've had the same problem and they just kept picking and picking by the time I had left school I was in no emotional state to carry on.
UnmaskYourDesire
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Jul 28, 2015
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No, it's not about your weight or anything. It's all about who bully you. He/she has problems. Not you. Just be yourself, be how you want to be.
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