Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

Someone in pain may wish to inflict it on others in an effort of validation for his/her/their own experience. Also, it can be a harmful attempt for one to cope with feelings of stress or humiliation by projecting one's experience onto another. When in pain, it becomes very easy to feel isolated and alone, so seeing others in the same or a similar experience can cause a person to feel more valid, even though the validation is at the expense of another person. When someone in pain feels invalidated, it may become even more difficult to reach out for support, so self medication, even if harmful, becomes a bigger option.

Some people think it will be easier to get through their own suffering if they know others are also in pain. Sometimes it makes them feel powerful when they else wise feel powerless. It is not justifiable by any measure, but an exercise in having empathy for their pain may bring a little clarity and compassion to the situation at hand. Sometimes showing them that you recognize their pain as the source of their actions is enough to make them rethink their next steps. Compassion may be difficult to achieve, but start with empathy and you may achieve astonishing growth. Resentment is a poison you take yourself.

For some people, I think it's an outlet. It's not healthy, and it's definitely not right, but hurt people hurt people. I also think that when someone is at their lowest, they have trouble focusing on anything but their own pain, and they hurt people on accident or more than they intend to. With pain, some people become anxious (which can cause irritability) and impulsive. Others, I think, feel like a burden to those they care about and simply want to drive their loved ones away. Loneliness feeds itself as it tells someone they're not worthy of love or attention, so they push people away.

It's easier to forget your own pain when you're too busy hurting others. Many people use bullying and rude behaviour as a way of expressing and venting the pain they already feel. It's not a good outlet or coping mechanism by any means, but for people who don't understand their own emotions, it's the easiest way they know how. It could also lead them to feel less alone in their pain as now they aren't the only ones suffering through it. There's also the possibility that it comes from a place of "it's not fair that this is happening to me." So they lash out as well.

Sometimes pain can deeply hurt someone. Pain can cause anger in some people. These strong emotions can make them feel isolated. They may want to make other feel as they do so they feel less alone, so they feel more normal. I have personally faught with my mother and at seeing her seemingly unaffected by my words have said mean things to her in order to hurt her. I am not proud of this but I wanted her to feel my pain. Sometimes when others feel your pain as well you feel better understood and not alone. This is why people in pain sometimes wish to inflict pain on others,after all pain can be blinding.

When someone is in pain, their first instinct normally if that pain is anger. Is to cause the people around them the same type of hurt so that they can feel better from it, and feel as though since they're hurting people they can't be hurt themselves. For example bullying, the joy they get from that is they feel powerful bringing someone else down because it means they're "Better than others" or "Stronger" When really they're just suffering on the inside and need something negative to bring a positive to their life, and maybe the feeling of power so that they feel they have worth.

When they’re in pain, they somehow throw their anger on other people because that’s the way they cope with things in order for their anger to get out of their system. Yes it’s wrong to throw something at someone when they’re innocent, but that’s just how the person griefs and handles their emotions. Sometimes they want attention and throw the pain at someone in order for that person to help them, or be there for them. That person means no harm against others when throwing their pain or anger at them, they just want to feel comfort from a person.

People who are already in pain may try and inflict pain on others to call for help. They might not know how to express their hurt and ask for help so they try and make other people feel how they do. They want to find a way to connect with someone, and they do this through the pain. When people are I pain, it can hurt even more to see the people around you prospering and being happy. Inflicting pain could make someone feel like they have control over something, if losing control is a source of pain for them.

I have always wondered this as well, especially with my own actions as well. It is usually hinged to the individual and each reason is explicitly personal and based off of the situation at hand!! No matter what the reason is - no one should have the right to cause any amount of pain! but Humans do not always think rationally, we make mistakes and this includes hurting others!! We may lash out if we are hurt, to try to push away the pain- to not get further harmed by the individual or prevent another traumatic circumstance from happening. It is hard to be continuously hurt, and a bitter, callous nature can become a defense mechanism for some people! It doesn't make it right, but it does make us a human that is trying to cope with our emotions!!

This is because that person does not know how to express their pain. For example some people may bully others because it reflects on the pain they are experiencing in their own lives and they may not have anyone to talk to. Hence the only way they feel they can express is this pain is by inflicting it on others. Bullies could be experiencing bullying themselves either in school or at home in an abusive household. Therefore they may feel that it gives them more power when they are able to inflict pain onto others as they are no longer seen as weak.