Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

I know it might seem difficult to understand where that person is coming from, but sometimes when people go through pain they can feel jealous or bitter and can try to bring other people down with them. It might be because they never learned how to ask for help, or they might be struggling with their own issues and focusing only on how bad they have it. Not all of us heal in the same way - in fact, not all of us wish to heal at all, and some people find their pain more manageable when they inflict it upon someone else, perhaps as a form of revenge.

When we lack self-awareness, it is easy to project our pain on others. When we do this, we become blind to our own pain inside ourselves. This can show up as complaining, or blaming language and behavior. This is why meditation can be a powerful tool for dealing with our pain. By going within ourselves we can catch destructive behaviors that damage our relationships. The next time you feel angrey or upset breath. Breath and ask yourself " Why am I upset right now? Can I do anything to feel better about this situation or person? How can I remain calm?" If you still feel overwhelmed with emotions, then remove yourself from the situation/conversation or place. Come back to the moument later and reflect.

Because when we are drained out of positive images and feeling out way of sharing can take negative form. When someone who has mostly negative ideas and negative recent if at al experiences communicates with others, they bring their internal experiences to their current communication process Feeling bad isn't a neutral consequence. It is a manifestation of something that is going on physically mentally or may even be medically. A study shows that people who have been abused are more likely TO abuse. That said, reality that had been harsh on an individual can leave one prone to inflicting their pain on others as a way of negative communication that can be altered with love and genuine caring.

They're often splitting off their empathy, especially when talking of traumatizing experiences. Some people also wish to rationalize the pain this way. Sometimes it's a way of letting out anger, stress etc., by making others feel what we feel, to relieve ourselves or be heard by the world. Time to time it also harms us when others do better than ourselves, making us feel low. It can also be caused by us wanting to feel like someone understand our pain and what we're going through. It's important to feel understood by the people surrounding us, it's a natural instinct we have from birth on.

People in pain are mostly the lonely ones. Inflicting pain to others might be their way of asking for help or attention. Or people in pain feels satisfaction seeing other people suffer as well. In that way, they dont feel alone. Sometimes, they think that life is unfair, cause they are the only one hurting so they hurt others to make it seem fair for them.

Hurt people hurt people. They have pain in their past and they send that back out into the world. It is a cycle that people pass on because they never healed from their trauma. However stopping that cycle would make the world a better place. Instead of hurting, forgive the people who hurt you and do your best not to hurt others. If you can spend your time trying to help and heal, so that others may be spared for the cycle. Think about what was done to you and how it made you feel. Treat people how you want to be treated.

"Hurt people hurt." When there is pain, someone will try to make it go away. There are many remedies. One of them is to project it on others. That is to in inflict it upon others. If someone can't control their own pain, they are going to control others pain. It may sound ridicule. But it is a pain control mechanism. In the meantime seeing others in pain gives the person in pain a good distraction. Sometimes it is more than a pain relief. The one in pain can get a happy feeling out of it. You may call it sick. But the reason why someone will want to do that is more complicated to explain.

Often times I feel it's almost a coping strategy, especially if the person hasn't talked about their situation to someone who actively listens to them. Perhaps they are not ready to do so and in the meantime their emotions are not stable that can lead to them saying things that they don't really mean, rather have got caught up in that feeling. I know for myself if I am having a bad day I am more likely to do something or say something negative because sometimes that emotion can take over. I won't mean anything personally by it just an outburst that I always try and apologize.

Sometimes it is not that they want to, it is that they feel like it is needed. Sometimes they feel like the only way to get someone to understand them or what they are going through they need to put someone through that issue. If the issue they are going through or went through was bullying or abuse they want someone to understand, so they might resort to forcing people to understand and forcing people to go through the same pain and misfortune they suffered through. Sometimes it feels like the only person that understands and knows is yourself and that can make people feel uncomfortable.

No one wants to feel alone. Sometimes people desperately want others to understand how they feel. In a way, it can be seen as balancing the scales; creating justice. Another possibility is that people who are in pain do not know how to properly cope, and cannot keep their emotions in check. This is why it is advised to never make decisions when upset or angry, because you might do something you could regret later on. Of course, this doesn't excuse inflicting pain upon others, but it might help you understand what they are thinking. If you know someone like this, try to understand and help them, but be sure to take care of yourself and your wellbeing above all else.