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Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?

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Anonymous on Oct 10, 2018
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Someone who is already in pain might want to inflict pain upon other because they feel like they are alone and they want people to feel the exact same way. I have experienced people like this in many different places. They feel lonely and want someone to talk to them, to them it doesn't matter about the reasons why the person is talking to them. They just do not wish to be all alone. They wish for someone to be there just for them. They want people to listen to what they have to say, no matter how toxic it is.
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Profile: Shananigans1
Shananigans1 on Dec 6, 2018
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inflicting pain on others, while your in pain, makes your feel good. because someone other than yourself is hurting. but at what cost? you just hurt someone you care for, for tempory relief of your own pain. instead of hurting that person you could have just asked them for help or support.
Profile: nikanni
nikanni on Mar 22, 2019
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When people experience pain it can resemble a heavy load. If you carry too much, it is often easier to hand some of the load to others. People who do not experience empathy or cannot share their emotions to feel release sometimes drift off into inflicting pain on others. They feel that this is a possibility to share their feelings and force people into empathy as they are now feeling alike. This, however, is very harmful and it is important to stress that there are other ways. Experiencing empathy, talking to someone about the burden you have to carry, or just writing down your emotions for yourself are methods which could help to relieve you of your pain and share it in a non-harmful way.
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WittyAmber13 on Apr 7, 2019
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It can be a way to cope for the one who is in pain. It may not justify for what they may have done, but from their perspective, they are hurting as well and they sometimes need to "let it out" or distract themselves from their life. While, in some cases, the whole "they're just talking about themselves when they call you names" is true, it can mean that when they are hurting they feel as though this is what they deserve yet they take it out on others, or maybe it's how they were/are being treated at home or by others. Like I said, this shouldn't justify for what they did, but it can help by understanding and starting to defuse the problem.
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comfortingRabbit47 on May 17, 2019
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Because that is the only thing that someone has to give: pain. There is no more room for other feelings such as happiness and etc. Maybe he or she inflicts the pain upon others so that the pain is shared and they feel validated for doing it. There are other quotes which encourage them to inflict pain upon others. Quotes such as "what comes around goes around" or "all things should be fair and equal". These quotations may be the driving force for people to do what they do. However, there is hope. There is no need to inflict the same pain to others if only they can defuse the pain just by talking to others (that's why it is important to learn and master a language in order to express yourself clearly). By talking, pain can be defused and he or she can have space for other positive feelings again.
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Anonymous on Jul 6, 2019
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Because that's their escape route. To feel good that they're not alone who felt pain. To get the revenge they never had. To escape from the reality of being alone in the pain. It's hard for them to see someone happy or content. It burns them from inside and they believe they deserve to do this. At end for them it is their sad history or present that drives them to hatred and evil.. And they can justify it. It's hard for them but they will be always saying that they're doing the right thing. To be able to escape from their own demons
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FriendlyFish22 on Jul 24, 2019
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A person in pain may want to spread his pain to others in order to feel less alone. Knowing that he/she has successfully hurt others may give the person a sense of satisfaction that he is not alone in feeling pain and hurt. People often exude and spread the emotions in which they feel, maybe subconsciously -but nonetheless they do. Maybe spreading pain is the only way they feel they can get this gratification. But I like to believe that the correct way would be to learn how to channel this pain into something else other than bringing others down as well.
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FreedomToBe on Sep 1, 2019
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It might stem from the belief that the person the aggression is aimed at somehow hurt them or is responsible for their suffering. It's a reaction to a factual or perceived pain that was inflicted on the body or the spirit. People who are in pain and who are aggressive in return might not be mature and present enough to see themselves as aggressors and take responsibility for their actions. This requires self-reflection, and people who are in pain are occupied with their own pain to notice the pain they inflict on others around them, or to understand its gravity.
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Anonymous on Jul 15, 2020
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That is a difficult question, because there could be many reasons. People who are experiencing pain may be projecting their pain onto someone else so they are not alone hurting. Pain can make people do things they would also never do in their clear mind. Being understanding and knowing they may not mean what they say and they are in a different head space can also be important. However, if they are inflicting pain it is also right for the receiver to wish them the best and carry on. Being supportive and understanding is beneficial to them and they will eventually realize that.
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Anonymous on Jul 30, 2020
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sometimes, people would be so broken that they wish others shared a similar pain. When those who constantly face pain and hardships see others happy, they tend to inflict pain upon others. This might give them a sense of relief that they are not the only one who is suffering. If life has been too unfair with a person, they start to question why it's happening only with them and why are others happy. Seeing everyone around them happy might drive them to get negative thoughts and wishing to see others in pain. This is a common tendency for people who are very hurt.
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