Why is it so hard for adults to understand why teens and children don't involve them when they are being bullied?

Yes I think it is hard because you have to remember that adults were once children themselves and maybe they have had it happen to them and didn't speak out about it to their own parents. So often it's a case of maybe they don't want their children to make their mistakes and not get help or talk about it. A parents job is to protect their child and when they don't talk to them about things that they should be with their parent then that's what they can't handle. It is understandable really. No parent wants to be kept out of the loop when their child is hurting and upset.

i think adults struggle to understand that they need to sometimes refrain from stepping in to prevent their teens from being bullied because they often don't think rationally when their child is being bullied- everyone thinks their children are kind and creative, so the confusion and anger wil build up with questions like 'how could anyone bully my child???' 'why is this still happening???' and it can often become hard to see how the teen wants to deal with the situation with the questions blocking out rationality. i guess you could say its over loving- if there is such a thing. This is often why teens and kids dont tell their parents- as they know this is how their parents will react, and they dont want to risk the parent accidentally making the situation worse. however: TELLING YOUR PARENTS OR A TRUSTED ADULT IS ALWAYS THE BEST OPTION, NO MATTER HOW EMBARRASSING THEY ARE!!! if you explain to them calmly that they need t be rational- im sure they will understand.

Adults may blow you off or make a big deal and You want to be independant . We are modest to ask for help when we need it so we try to tough it out.

Personally, I have noticed that a lot of parents understand teens a lot more than the teen perceives. The problem is the fact that parents are scared to speak up or want their teen to come to them for help.

Personally I think it's because sometimes adults forget that kids don't think like they do. I think it can be hard for an adult to understand what the kid may be thinking.

Bullying is quite a major issue these days. Children and teens don't want to involve parents into it. Firstly kids don't want to disturb the parents it's out of a love and concern for them. But later it becomes quite serious an issue to not to share. By then kids are already struck in the situation maybe even blackmailed on a verge to stay quiet. Another very bothering reason behind their silence is a communication gap between parents and kids. Kids are not at ease to reach out to their parents asking any help. It is hence very important for the parents to reduce the communication gap between them and kids

I think the main reason is because they get concerned. Bullying is a serious issue that might require the help from adults from time to time. Sometimes you can't solve things on your own or with the help of your friends, you might need the help of adults in that situation. They have a lot more life experience, and might have better solutions to important issues like this. I know how it feels when you don't want to involve adults into situations like these but sometimes it really is for the better. They get concerned cause they're scared the situation will get worse, which is understandable.

It can be hard to watch anyone you may love and/or care about go through a rough time. Some adults may understand, but they are more concerned with helping or stopping the issue. Other adults grew up with less technology, and they probably turned to social interaction to deal with issues. Kids today (including myself) have a harder time talking to people and speaking up. If anyone sees anyone they care about, they want to help. Adults (well, most of them) seem to be more likely to act upon those actions. Adults and teens/kids should be more willing to work towards understanding each other a bit more.

Well, I have been through that when I walk little and from experience I can tell you that it is very hard for kids and teenagers to open up about things such as bulling. For children I would say that they feel very scared, they see the person that is bulling them as big and scary and so they don't want their parents to get hurt, but there is also the possibility of them being threatened not to tell anyone or embarrassed of beeing bullied. In case of teenagers it is different, since some of them don't want to have anything to do with their parents and would feel embarrassed of having to ask for help from them; But in other cases, the teenager feels he has to deal with the situation on his/her own, since he need to become more independent and reaching con an adult would make him or his friends feel he is still a kid.