Why is it so hard for adults to understand why teens and children don't involve them when they are being bullied?

In my experience parents typically want to help their child out. Most parents would do anything for their child, and learning that their kid may be getting bullied is a real shock to the parent. They reach out to other parents and adults to try and do something to help their kid. They think that they alone can provide all the security their child needs for the time being, and even if the child disagrees with them they could dismiss this as the child simply not knowing what is best for them.

Because they want to help. Not that we always know the best ways. Name Drew wrote a good book about bullying you could read together. They can support you while you deal with it.

As you grow up and become an adult you slowly leave the pressures of being an adolescent. The pressures to conform and 'fit in' leave. You are no longer surrounded by the pressures of your peers. I think because adults don't feel this pressure, it can be hard to remember how it was as a kid. It can be hard for them to remember how, as a child, you are constantly evaluating how others see you. For a child to step up to a bully requires a lot of courage and self-confidence, and those can be hard for young people to find.

The adults only want what is best for the kids, and they will do anything to make them in a better state.

Through my experiences, I have learned a lot. To start off, teens/children don't involve adults due to many reasons. Firstly, we feel like they can not do anything to help change the situation because we believe that there is no solution. We feel that no matter what they do, whoever they talk to, our problems will stay the same, if not, worsen. Secondly, we teens and children are confused and scared. We might know that we have a problem, and we try to fix it, but it only ends up worse. Third of all, since we have a problem and facing it doesn't do anything or only makes it worse, we just tend to ignore it believing that it might just go away. That is why we teens and children tend to not involve adults. After my experiences, bullied teenagers and children should seek adult help becuase they CAN do something about our problems. We tend to underestimate them but once we involve them, we realize that they are the solution to our problem. Thank you for reading this short passage. Have a nice day and don't let anyone ruin it :) SMILE!

Adults like to talk about how children and teenagers are narcissistic, but they are often very self-centered themselves, even in well-meaning ways. THEY know they mean well and want to help, so they assume their children must know that, and if they don't, well, they SHOULD. They forget about the last time the kid mentioned being bullied, when they told her to ignore the bully and he'd go away, or when they told him, "Well, just punch him back and he won't bother you again!" They also forget that kids can sometimes lose status and look weaker when adults intervene for them (they can also gain status and look stronger, depending on who intervenes and how).

It depends upon the adult but they may think that they can help or stop the bullying but in actual fact, usually make it worse. Parents tend to be over protective and people, such as teachers, tend to not react at all to bullying or do very little about it but both of these factors are things that most adults don't understand. They forget that you have to see these people on a daily basis and that if they interfere and make it worse, you're the one that ends up in a worse situation than before.

It's hard because when teens and children get bullied they are afraid to speak up and same as when they see others getting bullied they are afraid that they would be taken advantage of or get in trouble by my logical explanation :-)

Adults don't have much experience of being a teen/child and getting bullied, Kids/teens think that the adult will understand what they are going through.

They are probably confused. Think of it from their perspective: they think that victims feel safe talking to them, and they are most likely wondering why victims of bullying don't speak up. It's harder than it sounds, speaking up, and it can be pretty scary. As adults who might not feel awkward getting help from someone else, they might see it as odd.