Why is everyone around me always being so mean?

Some people aren't nice, and its okay. We just have to learn to ignore what they think and what they say because at the end of the day, your opinion of yourself is all that matters.

Nothing. The way other people treat you, good or bad, is ALWAYS all about them, not you. You have zero control over how anyone treats you. But what you can control is your own time and attention. That's where your personal power lies, because nobody can take those things from you unless you give it to them. That makes your time and attention extremely valuable.

In my years, I've realised that what people say or think about me doesn't really matter. It's hard sometimes, because people can be harsh. I understand that. We all do. But at the end of the day, the only opinions that matter are your own.

People are who they are. It's not important to understand them. But try and be nice anyway. Even the meanest one, your small act of kindness and niceness towards them will soften them up at least a tiny bit.

People are mean is because they don't know they're being mean or because that's how they feel or they're scared so they want come out strong.There is so many reasons why someone could be mean.

Sometimes people thoughtlessly lash out and hurt others in order to make themselves feel better. Sometimes there is no malice, only thoughtlessness and apathy. When this happens, do not let anything devalue you. You are worthy of love and respect as anyone.

It definitely can seem that everyone is mean when you are in a bad environment. It is important to remember that a few people do not represent the entire population. There are nice people out there, but it may take some time to find them but don't lose hope! :)

Probably you are just surrounded by the wrong kind of people...if there is any way you can completely avoid them please do so but if you cant,then just try to not engage with them much and also never feel there is something wrong with you that they are being mean.

Maybe people have been mean to them and they are hurt so they choose to be a mean person to bring others with them. They may think that they are not even hurting others. Maybe they want to be mean to be friends with you

Sometimes everyone can 'seem' to be mean all around us but you should never believe that. There are 7 billion people across the world and many are mean, we cant deny that and unfortunately many are growing meaner and crueler by the second but not EVERYONE is mean. Someone is nice and maybe you just have to leave the place you are to believe this for yourself.

If everyone around you is always being mean, it is most likely because they have something going on in their life that is too much for them to deal with and they lash out to make themselves feel better

Today's world is a very cruel and very harsh place to live. People do not have compassion for others. People do not understand that everyone has a bad day and that if you do not treat everyone with respect and compassion you may be harming them in such a way that they may never recover. I know that it is hard to accept these people when they put you down or make you feel that they are bashing you. The way I deal with people like this is that I just set myself up for success! I go a head and have a positive outlook for the entire day and make sure to greet everyone and smile. Yes, sometimes this gets exhausting, but most of the time I am able to have a fantastic day because I already have the outlook that I am going to have a great day!

Maybe it is because you are mostly surrounded by toxic people, friends, coworkers and family. Try to find some better environment. Surround yourself with loving friends and family. Lower your expectations on people and realize that people aren't always kind. We all go through some stuff and that some people can be different from days to days. Aim for kindness and authenticity in people and not shared interest, social status or anything. Just look for genuine kindness. Or maybe, it's you that is being toxic and people are just responding to you the way they feel around you. Try to self-reflect.

Because you let them. I’ll speak from personal experience now. Since i was a little kid i’ve always been a very shy and peaceful person, tried to help everyone around me and solve other people’s problems even if i didn’t have anything to do with it. I consider myself a very compassionate person, even. Do you wanna know what i got from them? Bad answers, fake friendships, back stabs, bad attitudes. All of this because of my shyness, lack of confidence and low self-esteem. If that’s your case too, i think i’ve already said what you have to do. Have confidence in yourself. Don’t believe everything they say, people lie a lot just to look good. Always doubt people, never trust someone fully because that’s a ultimate backstab. Don’t let people judge you because of how/who you are, the only person who’s allowed to do that is YOU. Do whatever you want, don’t let anyone step in your dreams. The last thing they want is to help you fulfill them, no matter what it seems. And lastly, love yourself. No one will love you the way you can love yourself. People always love themselves first, no matter what. And guess what? We should do it too. I hope this helped, somehow. And as I am too trying to change into a more tough person, i hope you can do it too. Good luck.

Everyone is so mean because I think people are unsatisfied with their lives. They took it out on someone else by being mean and harsh. They are not happy with themselves, with people around them and things like that. It's like a loop, someone else being mean to them and they be mean to someone else. For example your boss scold you today, you go home and scold your wife for it. Then she scolds her son because of it. and just like that it continuing on and on. Someone has to break the chain immediately. for a better and happy environment.

I have learned to not take this personally. When people are mean, it is stemming from issues they have. It is not anything we necessarily did, but they feel better about themselves being mean... unfortunately. I like responding to people like this with kindness. There is no point in responding with anger or getting upset. If you show the person that you are strong and their mean words or actions did not affect you, you win. Do not let other people bring you down. Although we cannot control how others treat us, we are in control of the way we react. So stay positive and cheerful.

There is no straight answer for this as I am not in your shoes nor am I in the shoes of those who are being mean. What I will say is that sometimes the saying, "Hurt people hurt people", meaning that if someone is hurting someone else, it could be that they are hurting themselves, is sometimes very true. That, of course, is no excuse in them being rude or mean to you. If the people who are being mean to you are people that you have been close with, would you feel comfortable to open that conversation with them? Maybe get a direct response of why they are being mean? Sometimes, people do not know that they are being the way that they are and need that check in. Wish you the best of luck.

I have often found that the people who are the most cruel and unkind are the people who are suffering the most. Happy people do not go around causing pain to those around them. Unhappy people do. Whether they admit that they are unhappy or not is a different matter, it may be that they are unable to admit they are unhappy and in pain to themselves let alone to others. A mature person will respond to mean behaviour with concern and compassion whilst still operating within their personal boundaries of what is and is not acceptable. You do not have to tolerate unkind behaviour but you can make the choice not to respond unkindly in return.

There ain't nothing wrong with you, be the way you are and be proud of that. What's wrong is with them, they're projecting their own shitty ego onto you. You are the normal one. It's them that are acting like animals. So rest assured, them picking on you shouldn't upset you, you should be proud of yourself that you didn't stoop to their level. You shouldn't start thinking critically of yourself either due to their insults, you don't answer to those jerks, period. Judging by what you just wrote, you seem to be a perfectly normal, good, caring human being with feelings. Everyone has feelings, it doesn't make you weak. However, you have the right to have your feelings respected. Don't let them step all over that.

First, I'm so sorry you have to experience this! It can be extremely difficult to know that people are holding grudges against you, especially if you feel that there isn't enough of a reason for them to do so. It's never alright for a person to act rudely towards you without some sort of genuine reason that affects not only you, but them. But I also think it's good for you to introspect and think deeply about why this might be happening to you. I understand this issue firsthand. Whenever people used to be rude to me, I would blame them first without thinking conciously about my own behaviour, and what I might be doing wrong. I think the part where you introspect is key. However, you should also know that you don't necessarily need people's approval. I'm confident that you have a lot to offer as an individual, and they'll come to their senses soon.