Why do you think its wrong to retaliate anger with anger if peaceful actions do not have an effect?

It is not wrong to retaliate anger with anger if peaceful actions do not have an effect because that is normal, completely. Things take time, especially waiting for peaceful actions to "weigh in."

Retaliating with anger can make the situation worse and not only hurt you but the others who are involved.

"holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." often becoming angry hurts you more than the other person, and worsens an already bad situation. If peaceful actions have had no effect, maybe both parties need some distance.

Anger to anger isn't very good between two. In state of anger people usually don't understand what they are doing they might be stressing on one point rather than analysing their mistakes and trying to solve it. Usually one should always be calm and understanding if another is anger you being calm in situation instead of arguing this will lead another person to calm down slowly. The way you speak will make him calm. It's better to stay calm and confront the person instead of arguing with him. Later once he is calm down you can talk to him and make him understand. He will definitely listen and understand his/her mistakes.