Why can I stand up for others but not myself?

I stand up for everyone else but myself because I feel that everyone else is more important than me and they need the help a lot more than I do. But no one ever stands up for me...

Sometimes we feel its far easier to support and stand up for others as it can seem "once removed" from our own stuff, And also we can feel we don't "deserve" to stand up for us.

At least when standing up for another person means you're not alone in the battle; you have the person you're defending with you. But, who's going to join with you when you're defending yourself? It takes more courage to risk going it alone.

it is easier to stand up for others, you feel you're helping them, for yourself you can feel rude.

Standing up for others I feel like comes naturally because we don't want to see someone getting pushed around by others. Its harder to stand up for yourself because we all have our own insecurities and if someone presses you about those certain insecurities it can be a struggle to find it in yourself to stand up to the person. Even if they don't push you about certain things you think about, it can still be hard especially if you don't have the confidence in yourself. However, I commend you for having the courage to stick up for someone else. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to I'm always here for you!

Perhaps sometimes we respect and care about the wellbeing of other than for ourself. We are often taught to look out for others and make sacrifices, as being self-aware and respecting oneself could be seen as vain or selfish; however, we are equally as important as the people around us. How are we to care for others if we neglect our own needs? The goal is to find a happy balance.

Because our judgement of the others is always Without a major Emotional component, which we cannot ignore when the problems are ours.

That's really nice,it's probably because your selfless.You think about others before yourself,that my dear is sweet.You should be proud about it,but you have to care about you.

Sometimes it's far more difficult for us to understand that we deserve the same protection we give to others. When seeing a person in need or troubled it's human nature to instantly take to and try to stick up even if the person is unknown to us, that's how we tell the good natured from the bad. Realize that you are a good person you are willing to defend and take care of people you deserve the same treatment for yourself. A lot of times we also tend to numb ourselves if we've been through a harsh time and just tend to push away for what comes, brushing it off easily and not standing up to it the whole "I don't care" ordeal. However seeing another in need can change that prospective. Learn that /you/ are just as worth sticking up for as anyone else in the world and try to stay strong.

Usually with your nearest and dearest, you probably like them because they stand for certain values of real importance, or they're just being treated harshly and it's a real injustice. However if you've got low self-esteem or depression, well if you've got low self-esteem you think you 'deserve' the bad stuff in some way, and if you have depression well, nothing matters or has meaning full stop so, there's either no point in fighting, or nothing in the thing being attacked with fighting for. It's a mess.