What should I do if I know that someone is being bullied but I am worried that if I intervene, the bullies may turn on me?
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Updated: Aug 9, 2021
kindheartedSun3
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Jan 12, 2016
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Talk to those with authority to intervene and ask if they can keep you anonymous as you do not want to get involve.
Anonymous
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Jan 19, 2016
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If you are scared, to stop the bullies in your own hand. Go to a adult that can handle the situation.
Anonymous
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Apr 12, 2016
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I remember being bullied at school, in my marriages and throughout my working life. Sometimes another person would give me an understanding look that spoke far more than words ever could. It's hard to speak out about injustice, perhaps disclosing anonymously is a possibility. Weigh up the risk to yourself, your personal safety is paramount. Supporting the bullied person indirectly may be all you can do. A smile of encouragement, even advising them to report the issue themselves, can be just the incentive the person needs. Bullying is demeaning and can lead to social withdrawal, feelings of worthlessness, depression and suicidal feelings. To report bullies takes a lot of courage and can lead to personal reprisals. I would try to report it anonymously and if you don't have the confidence to befriend the victim, try to be kind. At least you can rest assured you've done what you personally feel safe doing.
Nova315
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May 2, 2016
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You go anonymously to an adult. You don't want to get bullied, that's understandable. (: Have your friend go to an adult with you as well.
Dreamer2626
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May 31, 2016
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You can try talking to an adult about it, like a teacher or your parents perhaps. Especially if it's happening at school.
AriannaNicole
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Nov 22, 2016
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Personally, I always recommend telling a trusted adult. But if you don't feel comfortable, try befriending the victim. Being a friend to that person could help more than you'll ever know.
Anonymous
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Feb 6, 2017
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First, instead of intervening you should go and just let the person who is being bullied is not alone. Only if you let them know they are not alone it will be a great help. Other than that, once you feel encouraged enough you can go and talk to a teacher or an upper grade student you feel comfortable talking.
avanef
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Mar 20, 2017
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There is nothing wrong about helping someone else out. Do that, help other people and know if they start to turn on you, you then go get help or put your foot down. Don't let others hurt you or others in this world.
Anonymous
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Aug 28, 2017
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You could speak to a trusted adult or an authority figure anonymously - that way the bullies won't know it's you therefore won't attack you however appropriate actions will take place.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2017
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You need more people to intervene and be by your side. Teachers, classmates and family. You need a good support system.
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