My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
unicornwithwings
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Oct 11, 2018
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First, told her that I can do well and next, I'm going to try improving myself so I can show her that I really can. I think this will change her perspective towards me and I think this will makes her see me as a positive person. I can also told her that no one is perfect and I am a human that sometimes can make mistakes and actually people have their own gifts.
GEMINIALDRIDGE8D
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Oct 13, 2018
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This could be interpreted two ways:
~Your friend is negative about everything when speaking to you: in this situation you should try your best to make your friend see optimistically rather than pessimistically. If your friend is still negative after some time, and shows sign of depression or such mental health issues you should refer them to or suggest they see a professional.
~Your friend is negative about you towards you: you should tell your friend how you feel about how they are towards you. This kind of friendship is toxic and will make you very unhappy. If nothing changes, although it may be difficult the best thing to do is rid yourself of this toxic friendship.
playfulWindow43
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Nov 11, 2018
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You tell them how you feel. If they still don't get you, maybe you should get new friends. They can be toxic to you and affect your mental health. It's always better to surround yourself with positive people who care about you. they should motivate you in life and support you whenever you do not feel at your best. Identifying a toxic relationship is very important and necessary. If you feel that you're friends are always negative towards you, then you have to see if your friendship is what it used to be... Finding the right people in your life shouldn't be taken for granted. :)
delicatdreamer16
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Nov 16, 2018
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Friends should be supportive and kind to you. If your friend is being negative it may be time to assess whether cutting them off is a valid possibility. Cutting out toxicity can be very difficult but is also extremely important to do. If it's a sudden change in your friend's personality, though, something may be going on at home or elsewhere. While it does not excuse their mistreatment towards you, it may be something to investigate before just cutting them out. While it's never easy to do, try and read the situation, you know them and the situation best, what do you think has happened? Has something changed? Have they always been negative towards you?
Anonymous
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Dec 5, 2018
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I will show that they are no help with my problems or that i yalk abot and tell them the honest truth that they are negative towards me even though they are my friend they should help me instead of hurting me in any way and if they stay negative they are no friend towards me in any way even though we help eachother negativity is not the way to go no matter if i care for them they cant show that negativity towards me or others and i will also tell then that every negative thought will hurt me in everyway
Anonymous
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Dec 16, 2018
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It never hurts to have a conversation with your friend and tell them how you are feeling and how their comments affect you. Asking them why can help both of you realise if there are any other underlying issues and will help you both to move forward. It is really important to be calm and rational because at the moment you don't know the whole story, it wouldn't be useful for any of you go raging at each other. If your friend continues after you talk to them a couple times you Cana lways ask an adult or another friend to help.
slightly
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Feb 21, 2019
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i suppose they're not really going to be aware of their own behaviour until someone brings it up to them. might be worth flagging it up with them as politely as possible to see if they might start to watch the things they say a little more. if they react negatively to that, then maybe consider whether or not this is the type of friend you'd like to have around. not that i'm saying to go around cutting people out ruthlessly! just maybe make a good attempt to reason with them first, and if it seems like actually, they're just a negative or mean-spirited person, then there's not a whole lot you can do to change that other than to ask them to work on themselves
Chris0029
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Mar 2, 2019
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It sounds like this person isn't acting as a friend toward you. In a situation like this, I would ask myself what it is I value about this person and our relationship. Is it just companionship, or something specific about this person? Is it something that still exists between us, or is that gone? If the things you value aren't specific to this person, or aren't a result of who that person is, sometimes the answer is that you aren't really friends.
Sometimes people behave poorly under strenuous personal circumstances, so consider whether they're going through something difficult. It's not okay for them to take it out on you, but it can help you understand the situation a little better. Always ask yourself, 'what could be causing this person to act this way if it isn't about me?' It can help you get a better idea of how to manage what's happening, because we often take things personally that really aren't about us at all. It is always okay to take a step back from a friendship if you need to. This can often help a lot because then you'll be able to work things out when the person is able to interact ith you kindly again. If a person's presence in your life is only negative, it is time to seriously consider moving on.
herefory0u
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Mar 31, 2019
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I would confront them about and tell them exactly how I feel. You should be honest as you don't want this to carry on. It's not good for your mental health. It could really impact the way you feel and put your mood down.
If they don't listen then I would stop talking to this friend. You should have positive vibes around you and someone who will be there for you during hard times.
Don't be saddened if this was your very close friend, you will make many more who will treat you better. It's so important to have a positive support system.
genuineParadise9481
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Jun 3, 2020
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Negativity often comes from their bad experiences and insecurities. It rarely has anything to do with you. However, it can send negative vibes causing bitter experiences and leaving you distressed. You must understand that when a person has had bad and traumatizing experiences even in the littlest of ways you could possibly imagine, they project that onto others because that is how they see the world. It just could be someone calling them dumb casually leaving them with a feeling that they are less intelligent than the others which they might convey by putting you down or looking down on someone's work citing they are dumb. I would suggest you to be empathizing towards the friend, understand where the negativity comes from, and then communicate to the person politely to make them aware of their behaviour. Change is a gradual process and when you empathize, it catalyses positive change in a person.
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