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My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?

Profile: emtheguru
emtheguru on Jul 24, 2020
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I'd say, either suggest them to seek help or take distance. If you feel a certain friend only drains your energy instead of sharing it or boosting it, then it's not a friend you have there - it's a leech! (please understand this is a joke) My point is, they have no right projecting their negative emotions onto you simply because you are their friend, and you shouldn't allow yourself to be treated as such for the same reason. You're worth so much more than that! However, it can also always help to talk to them. Communicate what you feel about how they've been acting and explain why you feel this way. Maybe they simply did not realize this, and will try to change! Also, offer your help and support. Maybe they are going through a rough patch in life themselves! Anyway, I hope this helps you on some level.
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Profile: LeviIsHere
LeviIsHere on Jul 25, 2020
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It's always good to be honest with others. Let them know that you do not appreciate being talked to that way. If they continue to be mean towards you, it might be time to find another friend. Confrontation can be scary, but it's necessary in order to let others know how you feel about their actions. Ask in a calm and collected manner "I dont appreciate the way that you're being negative to me, please stop." Using I instead of you is important so that they dont feel threatened. Good luck and I hope that you can resolve your issues.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 1, 2020
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Drop that friend. That is not a true friend, nor is that someone you want in your life. Try talking to this friend and ask why they are always negative towards you. If they try to downplay your emotions, it is time for you to stop talking to them because that is not a friend and you deserve better than that. Surround yourself with people that continually radiant positive energy and want to see you succeed. A fake friend is someone that wants to see you do bad and that is just and energy that you do not need.
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Try to discern what is causing the discord. Try to gently talk to him/her/them about it in a non-confrontational manner and ask them if there is anything you can do to make things better or if they feel that you have wronged them in any way. Also, please understand that it is not necessary that everyone should always agree with you and like you. It is okay if you don't. It may hurt when someone you care about is not very accepting of you but if you have done your part in trying to work things out and have still reached nowhere, learn to let it go. It will help. Let your gut guide you. Remember that you know and understand yourself and the relationships with people in your life the best!
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Anonymous on Aug 13, 2020
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You might feel worthless, betrayed and not good enough. We as humans, it ia natural for us to feel such emotions at such behaviours. Toxicity is meant to be cut out of life but the memories, the experiences are what bind us all together. That is what i would like to ask you, as the expert in the situation you are in, what is your gut telling you to do? Do you think you will be a better version of yourself without your friend? Or is the person too important to have any rifts? In the universe revolving around you, your perception, your emotions, actions, it is you who is capable to make the right decision.
Profile: petlover44
petlover44 on Aug 22, 2020
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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It's very difficult when a friend or anyone you care about is negative or mean toward you. Friends should be caring and positive. I have been where you are and it is very hard, I applaud you for coming to 7Cups today. Though I cannot directly tell you what to do as I have not walked in your shoes, but I can support you in the best way I can. Have you tried to speak with them about why they're negative? How does this make you feel?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 29, 2020
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Do you feel like you can open up to this person to ask them why they are negative towards you? Sometimes the best thing one can really do is open the path of communication to get an secure answer of what might have caused them to be negative and what can fix it. Best case scenario, they might not even know they've been reacting negatively towards you and might be carrying some of their own personal issues around, unknowingly affecting the people that they love or are dearest to them. Other good scenario, if there is a problem, you get a direct answer on what you can do. But, if you already had this conversation, but they expressed that they will change and haven't or wasn't open to having a conversation, we must start to ask if there is a way to properly communicate or find out what happened and if we think that this friendship we have is worth it. It is not an easy answer or solution, but I hope you know you have support here and that something could have helped.
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Anonymous on Sep 3, 2020
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I am sorry you are going through this. You deserve to have kind friends and people who support you! If your friend is still being negative towards you, I would first try talking to her about how you are feeling and how this is effecting you. If she is a good friend, she will understand and try to take it into consideration. If she doesn't listen to your concerns, then maybe it's better if you don't have this negativity in your life. Ultimately, the decision is up to you but you have to weigh the pros and cons and make sure you do what is best for you!
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Anonymous on Sep 24, 2020
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It can be overwhelming when your friend is negative towards you and I completely understand how you are feeling because of that. In today's world, things can sometimes bring folks down and we're not sure how or why it is happening. I cannot provide any advice however I'm an expert listener and am here for you. Here at 7 Cups, we have a variety of resources that can help you when dealing with circumstances regarding negativity with your friend. I'm happy to be here in listening to you. Would you like to discuss more about how you're feeling?
Profile: itsJT
itsJT on Oct 23, 2020
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Have a serious discussion with your friend. Let them know how what they are saying makes you feel. When my friends are behaving in a way I disagree with, I am up-front with them. I am honest with them. I let them clearly know how I feel about what they are doing so they can stop. If a discussion does not work, I find it best to distance myself. If you surround yourself with friends that are consistently negative, you may find yourself in a toxic situation. It is best to remove yourself from this toxicity, even if it is at the cost of a friendship.
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