My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
Anonymous
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Mar 1, 2018
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Ask him why he's so negative towards you. The only person who knows what's going on is your friend.
Anonymous
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Mar 2, 2018
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The best thing to do is let them go.Never be friends with people who are toxic,and cause negativity in your life.Don't be best friends,or in a relationship with them, because it is very hard to deal with people like that!Or,if you already are best friends,or in a relationship,let me say something. One:The blame is on you the whole time,isn't it?
Two:So,imagine you are having a fight with them.You say what you think,and they,of course,don't agree.The best thing to do,is to agreement.You need to pretend to agree with them,and act as if you were really the one that is wrong,and ''apologize''.Say something like:,,I now know,how bad I really am for you,so let's just not be best friends/in a relationship anymore.I'm really sorry that you had to deal with a bad person like me,and I really hope that you will find a better person for yourself.Sorry for everything i've done,and I really,really hope that you will find someone that is perfect for you''.This might sound wrong,but it may help you.
Three:So,if the previous one worked,bravo!And if it didn't,get ready to do one of the hardest things in life:Let go.So,you need to avoid contact with them,and maybe even block them on social media.They will surely say:,,Why are you ignoring me?I'm your bff/boyfriend/girlfriend!''And what you need to say is something like:,,Well,I'vebeen thinking for a while,and I think that I am not the right person for you.I've done some really bad mistakes,and I wanted to say:I'm very sorry,and I think you really deserve a better person than me,and should see other people''
Four:They might want to come back to you,and what you need to do,is act normal,but don't act as if you were vlose.Act like your just friends.Or if you don't want to be friends with them,ignore them,and avoid being in the same friend group as them,because it will be more difficult.If the friend group they are in are your only friends,try finding other friends that might be right for you.And,if it's hard for you to find other friends,don't worry,you will find other people,there are 7 billion people in the world.
And that's it!I hope this helped,and if it didn't,don't worry,:Everything ends good.If it's not good,it's not the end!
charmingBeauty55
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Mar 8, 2018
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One obvious solution is to walk away from them. But this is easier said than done; while we could always walk away from the bartender with a bad attitude or the airline agent with an anger-management problem, we can’t walk away from a parent, sibling, spouse, colleague, or friend with a negative attitude.
A more practical approach to dealing with them is to start by understanding the reasons for their negativity. In brief, almost all negativity has its roots in one of three deep-seated fears: the fear of being disrespected by others, the fear of not being loved by others, and the fear that “bad things†are going to happen. These fears feed off each other to fuel the belief that “the world is a dangerous place and people are generally mean.â€
WantToHelpp
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Mar 9, 2018
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I would ask why they are being negative. And tell them to stop. If they don’t stop I’d highly recommend to slowly stop hanging out with them. They can really make you feel bad about yourself. And that’s not okay.
sheknows1188
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Mar 28, 2018
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I suggest you confront your friend and ask her/him as to why he/she shows negativity towards you as it may be because there's some misunderstanding between the two of you.
Anonymous
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Mar 30, 2018
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cut them off let them know how you feel they arn't your friend if the are mean and negative to you
KingRaavana
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Apr 1, 2018
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1. First of all, stop calling that person a friend.
2. Make a list of negative points put forth by him/her.
3. Write down a remedy plan to correct only first three and improve yourself.
4. Cross out the ones you've overcome by the next day/week.
5. Write down at least as many positive traits of your critic as many your negative points.
6. Thank that person for pointing out your shortcomings.
6. Post the negative list on your refrigerator and keep ensuring yourself it's good to have someone criticize you all the time.
Anonymous
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Apr 7, 2018
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Your friend shouldn't be negative towards you. Ask them kindly to stop being negative because it is hurting you and you do not like it.
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2018
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Tell her this next time she's negative. You may also bring up negative things she has told you, which hurt you. Be calm, though! Use giraffe language to explain what you need from your friend, why you feel hurt, and suggest what they should do to act more positively? Or at least be aware they're potentially hurting your feelings!
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2018
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I believe you should have a talk with her. Asking her why she's behaving like that and that you don't like it. If she still does it. I believe it's better if you'd not associate yourself with people who bring you down.
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