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My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?

Profile: Mellouise
Mellouise on Feb 4, 2022
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Sit down together and discuss how he or she is making you feel tell them that this is becoming an issue maybe bring it into conversation when you feel that the time is right. I am sorry that your going through this though. Maybe do something go out somewhere or even sit down and have a cup of tea and discuss how your feeling if there a good friend to you and you mean something to them then I do not think it will be a problem. I can understand how your friend being negative all the time could effect you it cant be easy I do hope that you get this issue sorted.
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Profile: magicalOcean594
magicalOcean594 on Feb 27, 2022
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setting boundaries is the best thing to learn when it comes to negative people. It can be hard at first and takes a couple tries but after you get it it is great. sometimes if the friend doesnt understand, They will be a little shocked unfortuantly if that is the case then they were more then likely never a friend to begin with. also telling them how you feel is a great way to overcome fear. fear can sometimes be driven when we dont want to hurt the other persons feelings. at the end of the day we want to make sure that we come first
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 27, 2022
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We all have different personalities and therefore our perceptions of events and behaviours may vary. Your friend may not be aware of the effect of their behaviour on you. If this relationship is really important to you try explaining how you feel to them. If you notice an improvement then you can use that to decide where your friendship stands. If this person continues to treat you badly then you may have to consider if their presence in your life as a friend is offering you what you are really looking for. You can get some advice on how best to approach the situation by speaking to a professional.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 6, 2022
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Find out what your friend is feeling about themselves. People are often negative towards aspects they see in others and that they feel strongly about. This may be because they see themselves reflected in this and feely upset about what they are being reminded about. Bullies' behaviour works to a similar system - they attack those they see are weaker because they see something familiar and are embarrassed of that aspect of their own personality. Compassion for your friend will allow you to ask what is wrong in your friend's life. You can support them through whatever difficulty they are experiencing and build a stronger bond with them.
Profile: NGFOUCAULT
NGFOUCAULT on Mar 13, 2022
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People can project their negativity onto you, and make you feel as if you do not matter. Their attitudes towards you is a reflection of their character rather than your worth. We all need to protect your energy from the negativity and communicate our needs and feelings to those around us. No one truly knows you better than you know yourself. They may not realize how their words can negatively affect you. In loving friendships, both parties should be able to express their needs, concerns, and feelings without judgment. Please take care of your well-being first and foremost. You're loved.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 19, 2022
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It sounds like you feel that your friend has been critical and not supportive. Is your friend impacting you and/or your emotions harmfully? How are they acting and why do you think they might be acting this way? How do you currently feel about them and what potential steps do you want to take to mend the relationship between you two? It is important to first understand what steps you want to take from here and what you want to achieve for the relationship between you too. After that, you can then make a plan of how to address the issue, whether that be communicating and talking it out or distancing yourself.
Profile: NovaTheListener
NovaTheListener on Apr 13, 2022
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Sometimes, when those around us are negative, we can start to pick up on and hold onto some of that negativity. It can have an impact on our own mental health when we find that we're surrounded with negativity on all sides. It might be that your friend is struggling with something themselves. If you feel that you can, you could try talking to your friend openly and maybe signposting them to resources (like 7 Cups!) where they can work through whatever issue they might have going on. Always try to put your own mental wellbeing first, however! Looking after yourself isn't selfish, it's smart. Only after looking after yourself and building your own resilience can you have the strength to help others. If this friend has been causing you continuous distress, it might be time to reflect on the situation and ask yourself if having this person around you is the best thing for YOU.
Profile: OlivePumpkin444
OlivePumpkin444 on May 14, 2022
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It would be best to distance yourself from someone or anyone for that matter who is negative towards you. It's understand why you can't easily do that because you consider this person to be your friend. Try to put yourself in their shoes and see if you could be negative towards someone you consider to be your friend. If you have a hard time with doing that, then clearly this person is not your friend. This person would be better described as a frenemy and they are not good to have. It's common but that doesn't mean it's healthy. If this person continues to be negative towards you, then it could start to seriously effect your mindset and overall general health in the long run.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 2, 2016
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Sometimes there are hidden hurts that come out when we are around people who are genuinely loyal friends. Do you think there is some hidden hurt that might be affecting your friend? Maybe asking some questions about how they are doing or what is going on in their lives, in a non-judgmental way would help you understand their situation? Perhaps you could see if they'd like to go some place quiet for a walk or perhaps meet someplace neutral for a few hours away? Maybe seeing them in a neutral environment would help you find the source of the issue. Good luck.
Profile: omica
omica on Jul 2, 2016
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Try to discuss this with your friend, maybe bring it up and try to figure out what is going on between you two.
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