Is it true that people who bully are insecure?

People who are bullies' are often being bullies themselves or have been bullied in the past. Its not that they are insecure but they have anger that they don't know how to deal with.

Bullying is about exerting power; chances are that "the bully" has been traumatized through someone making them feel "powerless." The psychological need to matter drives them to reassure themselves that they matter through exerting physical or verbal force over someone else. This is a sad, sad cycle :(

i believe bullys have a lot of inner frustration and the satisfaction they recieve from acknowledging the power they have over an individual is rewarding to them.

I believe that people that bully are insecure, or suffering in another way. I don't think anyone wants to be the kind of person a bully is, although sadly, many people seem to find this as their only outlet for negativity in their own lives.

People bully for a few simple reasons: superiority complex and inferiority complex. A superiority complex is "an attitude of superiority that conceals actual feelings of inferiority and failure." So basically in this case, the bully pretends to be above others to undermine their own feelings of inadequacy. They think that if they pretend so long it will be true. The feeling is driven in somewhere in adolescence by either emotional negligence from parents not being around, their own bullies or their short comings (failure). As for an inferiority complex it is "an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behavior in compensation." This is generally the same as a Superiority Complex but slightly different. In the case of an inferiority complex they get over it by making themselves feel better by gaining friends (who are actually just scared of the bully). But for the inferiority complex, they are often more alone- they don't try to compensate for the feeling, they try to hide it- or brush it under the rug by intimidation. Either way bullies have their own issues that they have a hard time getting over. They don't understand how to channel feelings, so they use them for bad- but they don't see bad in the same way a victim does. Because our feelings are all on different spectrums- meaning that a bully doesn't think what they are doing is bad. We make our own realities, with our own spectrums of sexuality and emotion. We are all so different and complex, but often in a bully's reality- they only see themselevs and their shortcomings/hardships. You can't expect to change them, but you can change your reaction to the situation- since you can only change if you want to. Bullies don't want to change.

I think that's a possibility. Being mean can stem from insecurity, but there's a lot of other reasons why people bully and sometimes there isn't a reason. People can just be plain mean. It's important to ignore people like that though, you can't let them bring you down to the level they are at.

Yes! Most of them are. But you won't normally see them as insecure people, because the majority of people have a really rigid and conventional definition of insecurity. Bullies often build a tough personality as a survival instinct, but that doesn't mean that they are emotionally resilient. Their biggest weakness is their facade of strength. There is no way to deal with bullies without hurting both parties involved. The best way is for them to realize how to express themselves without using the means of violence, harassment, abuse or threats. I know all of my bullies very well, and, to me, they are people who seek love and attention by hurting others. It sounds conflicting, but thinking about it that way makes me feel relieved when I get them out of my life.

In most circumstances, it is true that people who abuse others physically, mentally and emotionally have deep seeded insecurities. However, there are many other reasons why people bully. Sometimes, it's a learned behavior. Young children are very susceptible to outside influences, and if they see someone being picked on by an adult or other children, the likelihood is strong that they will mimic those actions. If no authority teaches them hat bullying is wrong, then they will continue to do it and adopt notions that they have the right to do it. Most people who bully or harass have most likely done so since they were young. Bullying is usually the result of a person displacing their fear/aggravation of one thing and manifesting it onto a living thing. This situation, for them, is easier to control and gets more results than the bigger situation that is causing such fear and anxiety in them. Bullying is a sad situation for everyone involved. However, I'm sure that there are a few cases of harassment that have been caused by other, more severe, mental issues. But in general, both the bully and the person being bullied are usually victims alike.

It can be the case, but it's not always as straight forward as that. People who bully might be bullying to make themselves feel better, because they need to feel better than someone else. But sometimes it is because that is what they are used to. Often, a bully might get bullied at home, by a sibling or their parents, or someone else. They learn this behaviour and then bring it to school. There's all sorts of reasons why people might bully others. The best you can do is to keep in mind that it could be something that they can't control and it's their coping mechanism for now. It doesn't make it fair that they're taking it out on you, but it might help you stay calm and deal with the whole situation a little better :)

All bullies are insecure, yes. that is why they bully. confident well adjusted people dont 'have' to bully, only losers bully