Is it possible to not realize that you're being bullied at the time? Like you look back years later and realize you were bullied and just accepted it as normal or expected behavior at the time?

Of course, in this day and age a lot of people are bullied and don't realize because we are all just "joking around"

Yes. I used to be convinced I was the problem & deserved however people treated me because of the same differences they made fun of. I was exposed to a lotta people treating people wrong as a kid & I thought that was just normal. Now I feel like people in my life now are so nice I don't even know how to respond. I let some kids push me around & my mom asked me why I'd let anyone do that. I thought that was the price of "friends" who accept you when you're not perfect. The worst kind of bullying is when people convince you it's true, when they pretend they're telling you as a friend to protect you. There are tells though. Those kinda people get mad when you don't give in & they snap. Like this 1 time I told someone she's not perfect either & she showed a completely different side of her. Some environments are just weird like school or anything fast paced or where people have an agenda. Separating how I look at different environments helps.

Yes it is possible. At that time, you might not really knowing that you were being bullied because you thought that you were helping them on doing something (eg: lending money cause they ask you to help their parents or friends in needs)

It actually happened to me. As a kid, I was always pushed away and was always laughed at. But it wasn't until a few months ago that I realized this, and that was when I was talking to a listener about my childhood. It does hurt yes, because I think I could have received much more love as a kid but all I got was being ridiculed and laughed at.

I have actually had this happen to me all through high school I was picked on ridiculously people made up rumors pulled my chair out from under me, but in that present moment I don’t ever remember think “I am being bullied” looking back on it,it was pretty severe and has affected the way I react in friendships and relationships because it changed the way I view myself. Counseling has really helped me get through the walls that I built up because of this.

This scenario is certainly possible. One way of analyzing how this can happen is the idea of having "20/20 hindsight". i.e. when looking back on a situation, you have the benefit of being able to see it from more perspectives, you may have more information to go on, and you have be more mature and knowledge than you did back then. We may also have the benefit of having fewer emotions that cloud our views on the situation. When you've been bullied for so long and so consistently, a victim can certainly believe it to be normal or expected behavior at the time because that's all they might know, and that might be what feels to be the truth of the situation. Do remember that bullying is never acceptable, no matter now "normal" or "expected" it may seem. If you're being bullied, try and get help.

Certainly! There are times where we dismiss bullying as what we think is playful name calling. Sometimes it's not apparent that we're being bullied.

That is completely possible. All kinds of extreme stuff can seem "okay" or normal if that's what happens every day, and it only becomes obvious how extreme it was once you get out of that situation and have something to compare it to.

Yes! I went through this in my younger years. I hadn't realized I was being treated so poorly and that it wasn't alright until I met people who shown me that I deserved better.

it is possible because you may think that they are just teasing you are playing with you until you get older and realize that you were getting bullied