Is it normal for me to hold a grudge against my bully?

At first it's very normal to want to hold a grudge. But as time goes by, you start to think if it's worth it. And end up wanting to be the better person. Always try and real civil.

Yes , what is not normal is to take revenge on a physical and psychological basis.The revenge for your bully is self improvement and prove them wrong.

yes! its perfectly normal to be mad at someone who hurt you :( but the way i see it is if you waste your time being angry at him, then he is still bullying you by making you mad at him

Yes it is,bully's are really some assholes.But you must understand the bully probably felt really bad himself,But it doesn't give him any excuse though,But yeah,It is normal,In my opinion atleast.

It's actually very unusual NOT to continue to dislike a person who has bullied you in the past--usually when there is a turnaround it's because the you and the bully had to work together against a common enemy, or the bully had some kind of big emotional realization that they did wrong and made a longterm effort to change their life. There is, however, a difference between simply disliking someone and obsessing about how much you hate them. If you're obsessing it is probably a sign that you're still feeling bullied and abused in some way, even if it's not by the same person.

Yes, it is normal to hold a grudge against a bully. They affect our sense of well-being. But is it right to hold a grudge? Probably not. We are judging them for something we don't like just as they are judging us for someone they don't like. The difference between us and the bullies is how we carry ourselves. Everyone has a set of rules they live by. As we get older and more mature our standards improve. We can't change others behavior we can only control our own. We can set a standard that everyone should live by. We can have hate in our heart for someone, or judge someone... but it's the way we choose to treat them that sets us apart.

Well... I guess for me I'm a radical in this situation... actually i'm to scared to hold grudges against people. If I were to hold one, and it escalated into physical or verbal, I wouldn't be able to defend myself. Physically, I am weak, and mentally, I am vulnerable. I usually temporarily forget what people do to me and just... well I don't know. Actually, I have people who hold grudges against me for not obeying them. and they're younger than me! ( I suppose that would be another subject entirely though)

Of course, that's a normal reaction, emotions are normal, thoughts are normal, acting upon them is different though. There are ways to deal with violence, and violence is not the answer.

It is perfectly normal for you to hold a grudge against them! They put you through a lot and you have every right to be upset and angry at them for a long time. I know I still am. One of my best friends turned out to be one of my biggest bullies, but once I had finally had enough I withdrew from him and now we don't talk. But I can see him in the hallway and feel complete anger for everything he put me through. So yes it is completely normal, and there is no reason why you shouldn't be angry towards them. Stay strong💕

Yes. They're somebody who's hurt you in the past, so it's normal for you to dislike them and hold a grudge.