I was a bully . The past keeps haunting me even though I apologized. What should I do?
Anonymous
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Oct 11, 2016
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Apologise to the ones you hurt. Even if it would seem irrelevant to them. You will feel better knowing you that those people now know youre a changed person. this will serve as a great first step to your healing.
samlovenothate
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Jun 27, 2017
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Be the person you want to see in the world. You apologized and maybe you can help other people do so too. Educate. Use your story in a way that can help others.
Anonymous
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Aug 21, 2017
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Firstly you need to realise you are a changed person now. When you first thought to ask this question on here showed that you realise your mistake. You know you cant change your past just accept it. When we accept our mistake we can find a solution to it. At the end I would like to say -"Sometimes all matters is one step you take to improve yourself"
Anonymous
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Feb 20, 2018
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There's no point in apologizing when you're not accepting the sorry, yourself. You gotta forgive yourself, first. Hopefully, everything will be alright then. :)
ashtonistranstion1
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Mar 5, 2018
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your knew your mistakes and you were able to live up to them thats the best it will haunt you but make sure you do everythingin your power to help other when they are being bullied
Smolpotato87
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Apr 16, 2018
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You've got to learn to let go of the past and continue moving forward. You can't change what you did, but what you CAN do is make a difference in the lives of victims of bullying. Volunteer in your community towards some anti-bullying campaign or sign up as a listener here on 7 cups and talk to people who are victims of bullying. The fact that you feel guilt for what you did means you aren't a bad person.
Suzanne6
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Jun 30, 2020
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Bullying has become an area of increased focus in schools and workplaces. Often times people who are acting in ways that can be considered bullying - using hurtful words, pushing or hitting, starting lies or rumors - are experiencing their own difficulties but struggle to express that to others. The fact that you recognize your past behaviors as bullying shows a great deal of insight. Taking time to reflect back on the time in your life where you consider yourself to have been a bully can help you figure out if there was indeed something going on in your life that was painful and difficult for you to deal with. There are resources available on 7 Cups that discuss bullying and may be able to help you process that time and begin to move forward.
snugglyDog7961
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May 31, 2021
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So I was also a bully during my freshman year of high school , didn't physically hurt people but I bullied by my words and jokes(which were way too offensive). Only when I reached junior year and the pandemic dawned upon us did I realize what all I had done wrong. Almost immediately I apologized to all those I knew would have been affected, still the feeling that I almost suck the life out of some classmates never left me. I started channelizing all the empathy I had inside me to something good. I changed my behavior completely. I started to talk sweetly with everyone, went out of my comfort zone to be friends with people I hated during that time and most importantly started treating everyone with compassion
and kindness. This not only help me let go of my past behavior but also develop emotionally as a human being. So the catch here is try to convert all of the emotional guilt into sympathy, kindness and love for fellow beings.
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2015
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prove to the person that you truly are sorry. sometime just "sorry" doesn't help. hope this helps.
WesternCanada1
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Aug 11, 2015
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you should forgive yourself, If you feel bad about past actions it means you have somehow changed. Also, since you have even apologized, you have made amendments ! This is very good. Just move on !
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