How to get my parents to stand up for me against bullies instead of apologizing to avoid any confrontation?

Maybe you can ask your parents to first listen to you, analyze why and how you are bullied, and ask them to believe in you and support you. Even if you are not bullied and want your parents to stand up for you, make them realise the consequences of bullying. I know that deep down they too know how bad bullying can get ... it is just that they sometimes avoid it. But the truth is, you are the only one who cant make your parents understand the importance of this subject. You should tell them, that by apologizing, one can either become polite or they can also become ignorant, and then tell them that you don't want your parents to turn out to be ignorant...

I went through this the best way would be to sit with your parents express how you are feeling see how they feel as well a chat can often bring families closer and to better understand what needs to be done. Sometimes parents may not fully understand what we may be feeling or going through so sometimes to express to them that you need their help and maybe explain to them what all has been happening and why it upsets you how they have been reacting to things i am sorry that this is happening to you bullying is rough and it is sad the world has it

This is a great question! It depends on perspective. Sometimes it can be difficult to have our parents defend us against bullies. We are taught as a society not to bully others, it's morally wrong. But when bullies charge towards us and try to manipulate us and take advantage of us it can sometimes seem difficult to talk about it to others. Getting your parents to stand up for you is so important because it means they can defend, protect and cherish you as their child. When parents start to apologize it might seem confusing because it can just be a way to make the problem go away and avoid confrontation. This isn't always a bad thing depending on how its done. Perhaps your parents are looking at It with a perspective such as, "Hmm, if I apologize to them for not knowing better, it might help them to be calmer and not bully my child." Sometimes bullying them or their parents in return doesn't always make things better. It depends on the whole scenario and situation and how things are done. Perhaps your parents being assertive with the immature bullies parents are a way to make them understand better and communicating with them, pointing out exactly what it is that they want to stop happen. =) Don't be discouraged if you feel like your parents can not stand up for you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You shouldn't feel alone, the world should make you feel safe depending on how you view things and treat others. Everyone will be held accountable for their actions at some point in life. I understand it might be difficult to move past situations where you are feeling bullied because you feel alone. Trying to engage with people you find comfort with helps! There are support groups you might be able to talk to others and relate to them on the website. I don't want you feel alone, YOU ARE ENOUGH. Don't feel silenced when it comes to bullies. Make sure you speak up about how you feel or felt but to the right person(s) such as counselor, principle, teachers, etc.. If you go to church, let your pastor/ priest or whoever ordains within your religious beliefs. I would say that you should still tell your parents even if you feel they haven't handled the situation correctly. Speaking about your emotions can be important for your parents to understand what you're going through. Don't give up! Also, explore the website and find as much people as you can to talk to if you need to!

Tell then to remember their own experience of being bullied and how would they feel then if there could be someone to stand up for them. Explain how bullying makes you feel and what it does to you. Say to them to also think of the big picture: if no one ever stops bullies, they will just grow into bigger bullies. And those are then people who are mobbing their employees or attacking people around them. I think it is important that they understand your own trauma from these incidents and also see the big picture, what kind of world would they like to contribute to.

I think you need to have a conversation with them. Tell them you understand their wish to avoid confrontation because it's normal to want peace. And that you want peace too. But avoiding confrontation is not solving your problem with bullies and you would like them to stand up for you so can the bullies stop harassing you and you can be in peace, that is something that you value as them (your parents). Tell them also that you fear that things will escalate, that you fear the bullying will intensify if your parents continue to be passive about the subject. You can also speak with your teacher to have a conversation with them.

Ask them to and express your concerns to them. However, you state that your parents apologize to avoid confrontation, and you are wanting your parents to fend off bullies for you ie. avoiding confrontation. If you can't rely on those around you then you must rely on yourself and find your own way to overcome your situation, whether that is by talking to other people with authority or confronting the bullies yourself. Unless these bullies are physically harming you or doing something to ruin your reputation (rumours etc) then their impact is only what you decide it to be. Bullies are just bored, insecure, immature people. They act that way because they lack the knowledge to be any different.

Dealing with bullies is a horrible experience. I've definitely been there! In fact I admit, I've been in all 3 roles, Bully, bullied and guardian of a bullied kid. And its awful to feel like your own parents don't have your back. From their perspective it can be a difficult situation for parents when it comes to this as they simply don't know the whole situation, and acting can potentially have serious consequences for you, and indeed your whole family. Here's the best advice I can offer from my experiences. Talk with your parents, let them know what's going on and how you are feeling as calmly and and honestly as you can, and ask for their support in dealing with this issue. As for dealing with the Bully directly without apologizing and giving up a part of your pride and soul, (That's what it felt like toe) seek to empower yourself! Bullies are regretfully a part of life, and mum and dad will not be there to protect you very often. So when you get your parents support, see if they cant help you get into a martial art, particularly Brazillian Jui-Jitsu. No this isnt so you go slogging any bully you come across, its to give you life-long confidence and control, develop your character and ability to deal with adversity! And yes, in the worst case, if things get physical, protect yourself in the safest way possible for you and your bully. By growing strong and capable not only do bullies avoid us, but we can exude the confidence and control to use empathy for our enemies! After all, most bullies usually have their own suffering going on, and they mistakenly take it out on others because they have no coping mechanisms. You could even gain the power to turn your bully into your friend, and change their life and your own!

You have to help them feel what you're going through. If they can put themselves in your shoes they will naturally take the appropriate action. Ask your parents to think back to a time where they compromised their integrety. How did it make them feel afterwards? Did they regret their actions? Share one of your own experiences to help them open up. Tell your parents how important it is to you that they have your back on this. explain how this feels like an on-going and daily conflict and you really need to feel supported by them and that they are on your team in this matter.

Unfortunately, there is no surefire way to get people to act in a certain way if they don't will it for themselves. You can suggest to them why you feel a certain type of behavior is important, you can explain to them what it would mean to you if they acted in such a way, but there is no way to ensure that they will behave in the way you want. Probably the best thing you can do is explain to them what's going on and why it bothers you that they are non-confrontational and apologetic in these situations.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're being bullied and that you're not getting the help you need. Let your parents kindly know that you need some more support from them. It's a difficult situation for everyone involved. However, you're experiencing the bullying so if they, as fully grown adults feel uncomfortable about dealing with confrontation, ask them to consider how you feel being at the center of confrontation. If you have any particular ways they could stand up for you and you feel comfortable sharing that with them, then share that with them. If they're unwilling to assist you further, is there an administrator at your school (or if it's happening in another setting, is there an adult who will work with you)?