How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?

Personally I try not to listen to much negativity but I find having an open and honest discussion with the person can often bring some closure. Even if the person doesn't stop bad mouthing you at least you now have an incite into why that person may be bad mouthing you. For example they could be insecure in themselves and bad mouth other people to try and make themselves feel better about themselves. another thing is it could be something that you have done without even noticing that made that person see you in a negative way, talking about it allows you to fix these problems or let them know that you did not intend to make them feel that way.

Depends on the effect those people have on you. If it makes you doubt yourself then they’ve won. But the things people do only reflect themselves, not you. In realizing that we all are capable of doing negative things, you forgive them and become better, get out of the cycle. If clarifying the gossips and rumors help you in anyway, or improve the situation, do it. But if not, accept them as it is, you don’t really lose anything, they just showed you who they really are, which is an important information. Hope this help.

When someone is bad mouthing you, the first thing to do is think about what could be causing it. Most of the time, when someone is being rude to you, you are not the reason for their anger, only the target. I've found that, hearing people out and offering an open ear is the best way to deal with people bad mouthing you. Sometimes, when people are rude, it is hard but remembering that they are probably not mad at you I'd helpful. If you feel that you are the reason for the bad mouthing or disrespect, don't meet their bad mouthing with further disrespect. It is important to stick up for yourself and to not tolerate abuse, however I always try to hear their side. Many times they have a very legitimate problem that should be addressed.

I would personally look at what I consider healthy or not, and for me people bad mouthing me don't deserve to be a part of my life. When I can accept what;s good for me and not, I think it would make it easier for me to make a change and remove the bad things. Now. removing them and how to remove them is a different thing when compared to acceptance of it, which is part of it too. Maybe it can be by distancing myself from them or just cutting them off altogether, unless there was a way to let them in on the fact that they are bad mouthing and how its not welcome, if they were oblivious, it would depend on the circumstances and I hope you find a way that's best for you

I would first ask them why they are bad mouthing me? Did I do something to hurt them? If I did not do anything wrong then, I would express that their bad mouthing is affecting me in a negative way and I would like for them to stop. If they don't I would just remind myself to not listen to them, because what they are saying is just their opinions. It does not mean that what they are saying is true about me. As long as I am a good person and being my best self, I do not need to worry about what they are saying. Although, if they are bath mouthing me because I hurt them, then I would apologize. I would express to them that I will change my behavior, if I did something wrong.

There is little that can be done regarding the actions of others. It's our own choices that is our power, so trying to control others is futile. Rather, the expression "deal with" puts to emphasis back on who matters--you! Dealing with people who gossip and spread slanderous crap are common. Social media has made our opinions an open talking-point and the annonimity often emboldens people. The best ways to deal with people who are bad-mouthing you is to ignore them. People often try to incite ugliness and engaging gives abusive people further fuel. Also, the axiom: "If you can't fix what's broken, fix something else", might be of use. Instead of bad-mouthing people in your circle, try spreading some kind words to those you know need them.

We can't change others, only ourselves. Often, people who gossip - or triangulate - do so not to intentionally hurt someone else, but because there's a shortcoming about themselves that they can't naturally address. Hence, they repeat the cycle because their own suffering persists and badmouthing is the only comforting defense mechanism they're aware of. If this is coming from a friend or family member, "true friends" don't attack other friends and the same would be applicable to kinship, in spite of blood ties. Most of the time, severing contact is the only way to completely "deal" with it; however, everyone's situation is different and sometimes that's not possible. When this is friends and family, though, the worst part is not what they spread, but that we can't enjoy a happy, healthy relationship with these people, due to their inner suffering.

Oftentimes it feels as though confronting someone that is bad mouthing you is the only answer, but it's not. Most of the time, people who have bad things to say, are just projecting their own insecurities. Just know that we're all a little bit flawed, but it's how we handle situations like this that separate us. Just keep your chin up and let the things they say fall on deaf ears. Their opinions don't define you. Focus on yourself and your own personal growth and all of that background noise will fade away. Sometimes all they want is to get a reaction. There's no need to succumb!

Confront them slowly and establish that you know what they are doing. Ask for an apology and for them go stop. If they don't. Seek an adult.

Politely tell them to relax. If it gets too bad I block them but otherwise I try to find out why they are doing this.