How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?

1. Confront them. Ask them if they have something against you. Politely approach them to talk. Clear misunderstandings if any. 2. If they are doing it for no reason, tell them they are only revealing their toxic character by doing this and leave. If anybody approaches you hearing their comments about you, tell them the same. A sane person would mind their own business. 3. After the above two steps are done and they really are toxic people spreading negativity, tell yourself everyday who you really are and try your best to ignore it. Let time show everyone who you truly are. They may just be a distraction in disguise.

Emotional control is going to be key here. You don't want to lose your cool and get mad at them, even if they are being infuriating. When people upset me, such as by bad mouthing, I start by taking a step back and reflecting on the situation. Maybe they are saying bad things about me, but is that a reflection of me or of them? Is what they are saying true, or are they just being mean? Likely, they are just being mean, so I try, to the best of my ability, to let their negatively roll off me. I stay calm in spite of it. Next, you may want to confront them, explaining why their actions hurt you and requesting them to stop. I would look up conflict management tactics in advance to ensure your conversation stays productive and emotions stay low. Don't start fighting with them; be the bigger person. If they refuse to stop or don't want to listen to you, remember that they are the unreasonable ones and try to distance yourself from them in the long run.

There is no way to 'deal' with people that are bad mouthing you, that is like fighting quicksand, you are trying to deal with something that you simply have no control over. Instead, bring your focus and attention back onto yourself and living your best life. YOU know the truth and anyone that engages in gossip and believes one sided tales from people who tell them, they aren't worth worrying about. Stand in your own power and let that be enough, eventually the truth will come out, as long as you stay well out of the drama someone else is trying to draw you into.

Take a breath and consider why those words hurt you – if it helps, write your thoughts down. Once you've process how you're feeling and *why*, confront the people who are bad-mouthing you, but not in an aggressive way. Start by saying something like "Hey, I've heard you say *this* about me. I want to let you know that was quite hurtful and I'm not okay with that." If it helps you, you can ask them why they said those things about you or you could kindly request them to stop doing so. But you need to also realise that any action that they take after is out of your control and from that point on you have done everything in your power to better the situation. If everything ends positively, then great! But if it does not, that is OK. You did very well to try but if they don't respect you or your feelings, then it may be good to step away from them completely and move on. These people do not deserve a space in your life and you will do much better without them.

I think it is really important to always remember that the person who's talking about you has gone to a very low level to try to hurt you and that you should always be a better person and not get mad or lash out at that person. As long as you ignore the person and the issue, that person will never get the satisfaction of knowing that they "won". Another thing is, to consider the kind of person who's bad-mouthing you. Most of the time, it is someone who has to compete with you somehow. Usually, they are trying to gain something in favour of someone else by talking about you. Remember that most of the time, the person talking about you is only doing so for their own gain, or that they just do not know how to handle their own insecurities and emotions. The next step is to confront the person, in a responsible and calm way. Do not ask them why because that does not matter. Instead, tell them how hurt you are, and that you truly hate that they feel that way about you but you do not appreciate them talking bad about you. Even if they do not stop; I know it sounds easier than done, but honestly, you cannot worry about what people say all the time. Life is short, and your life is not going to be made up of what other people say about you. The next step is to move on. Get new friends, show them that what they say about you is not going to define you. This is what I think is a good way to deal with people bad-mouthing you.

Please try not to take those comments personally. I know they are very hurting and quite frequently mistaken (it's okay to correct them if they are very off), but usually, those comments stem from the negative mindset of the person who is bad-mouthing themselves. Those are not worth your emotion and energy since they don't come from a strong ground. I know it is very difficult when it comes to letting go of things that hurt me, but at the end one who stays happy and resilient goes far not the one who holds on to the negative feelings.

Maybe you could first deal with your own self. People spreading any rumours about you are most of the time recognizing something important: that you matter. So before you "deal with" them, you might want to give yourself a pep talk. You do not need to argue with these people. Just shrug and go about your tasks and activities. The more outlandish the bad-mouthing, the more hilarious for you. However, if you know who is the source of the bad-mouthing, you ought to go see that person and say: "I need your help. I hear rumours about me, and since you know the crowd, I was wondering if you could make it stop." That way, you make no accusations and that person might well be able to do this for you, just because.... you asked.

People will talk, we bad mouth others sometimes, its a fact. You have to ignore and try to move on, when we hear it from a loved one it is even tougher, but then you realize and revalue your loved ones. It is better to keep it simple throughout, the more we think the more we become conscious of people talking about us. It is not worth the time to be going back to them. I'd say if you trust yourself on what you did, it is better to ignore. Our happiness is more valuable than the people who talk behind us.

Learn to live through with it. People bad mouthing you are everywhere. They wont go away unless you ignore it. You know yourself better than anyone. I have personally experienced this kind of situation, I know it is hard at first. I kept crying whenever someone badmouths me. It is because I am too sensitive, and being sensitive doesnt mean you're weak. You are the real you. So, ignore them and live a good life. Basically, when you learn to live with it, it is nothing for you. It'll be just a small thing, and you'd be the one laughing at them.

How do you deal with rains? You watch it, let it do it’s deeds and then it passes away. What matters is that it provides support for further growth. Whether intentionally or unintentionally. You watch, you observe, you let it sink in and then it shall pass. The very fact that they’ve been bad mouthing talks a lot about them. Doesn’t mean it is all true. You believe your truth and never leave kindness. You grow and let go. For this world will not be kind always. But you can. To yourself and to the ones who seek pleasure in the pain of others.