How do I know if I'm a bully?

Got an adgenda, usually to make everything about the self at another persons expense. Sometimes doesn’t have to be an adgenda sometimes a person gets triggered with their own issues and rather than deal with them inadvertently take them out on someone else. Some people just feel better about themselves if the other person looks weaker and this is the usual definition of a bully, and probably the worst one, especially if it’s in public. A bully pushes others around to make space for their own fragile ego, rather than facing their own fears puts them on others, a bully is a coward

If you seem to be hurting others feelings you could be a bully. If you are messing around with other people in a fun way and they take it the wrong way it could be considered bullying. Looking for social cues when talking to people you have teased in the past is a great way to tell if the person you tease thinks that their bullying you. These social cues could be, awkwardness, shyness, and being uncomfortable when talking to you. If you have 4 any of these social cues pop up when talking to the person you may want to rethink of how you talk to them and or tease them and make sure it is in a friendly manner.

This world is full of people of all kinds. Among the people who you have interacted frequently, you may find that some are never getting tired of putting you down and causing you feeling a strong sense of self-guilt and insecurity. Please flag them. Beforehand try collecting as many evidences as possible to verify the suspicion. Well-rounded people don't bully others and cause discomfort. Bullies are normally living with underlining psychological issues. It is not fair to simply label as "bad people". It is also not practical to expect everyone to be friendly and kind when they are not feeling okay in their heads. If you see someone enjoy making you suffer mentally and physically for fun. You can be sure that you have spotted your bully...Ignore. Respond to facts not their emotions if you have to. Step outside the room. Move on to focus on your own business.

Put yourself in their shoes, would you feel harmed by your words? if you think you are hurting someone specifically then watch for their reactions as you say something you think is considered bullying. If their reaction seems sad and hurt then you should change your ways. If they genuinely laugh along with you then they must have a heavy sense of humor. You need to know that everyone takes words differently. A joke you said can tear someone apart and make someone else laugh. Remember, humor is subjective, not everyone is gonna get yours, some might think of it as bullying so you need to look out for your words.

A bully can come in many ways. Any time you are causing affect negativity to another person. Picking on others just for the fun of it. Finding joy in others suffering. Imposing your opinions, thoughts, feelings onto someone who is not invested or does not want it. Not respecting boundaries of others. Talking negatively about others. Passing judgment by appearance, behaviors, actions to others. Being a bully can look different from one person to another. If you do not know limits of respecting others, you could be considered a bully.

You probably are not since you are asking yourself that question. Bullies often don't care about their behaviour and they don't ask if they actions have negative (or any) reactions on someone's life. They are manipulators, control freaks and two-faced people. They always pick on the weakest link in their or some other group of people. They lack empathy and can get agressive quite easily. They spread malicious rumors and are attention seekers. But, deep inside they are unhappy and lonely people with some sort of past trauma that made them that way. If you still think you are a bully, ask yourself what made you that way since you were not born with it.

If you are someone who uses power, or money, or any other advantage you might have over others to sabotage them, hurt them, or to control them, you are a bully. Even if you are someone who is fortunate, but chooses to keep it all to yourself, you may not be a bully in the literal sense of the meaning, but you are nothing short of one. To be a nice and kind person, you need to understand the importance of sharing with those less fortunate with you. A quote that I like to love my life by is, "If you are more fortunate than others, build a longer table, not a taller fence."

It's best to examine the people around you. What do they think of you? Often times, I ask myself why people are being so distant from me, why they're talking bad about me, why no one really takes the initiative to start conversations with me. In that case, you've probably hurt someone, at least in my experience. You can learn a lot of things about yourself by assessing those around you. I victimize myself for this, when really I am the issue, I am the one that is bullying others and painting this bad image of myself. I feel like once you recognize that, then you will know the answer to this question.

Someone would know if they were guilty of being a bully by taking the time to reflect on their behaviors and interactions with others. If they found that they engage in or have developed an aggressive self-serving skill set in any of the following: emotional manipulation, isolation and, or gossip, then they might take their actions into consideration. Hopefully they would come to the realization that these behaviors are typical of what is commonly considered a bully. Hopefully they would then take the necessary action to avoid engaging in such behavior in the future. A little empathy goes a long way.

Sometimes it can be hard for us to assess whether we are bullies. However, there are questions we can ask to take inventory of our behavior and hold ourselves accountable if we feel we might be acting in a bullying way. First, consider asking yourself whether you ever make jokes at the expense of other people. Look at where you derive pleasure, humor, and entertainment from. Is it ever from putting people down or mocking them? Do you ever make fun of people or tease them? Even if you are only joking, the people you are joking about might not feel the same about those jokes. Have they expressed any distress about the jokes? Have you asked them how they feel and have they been less enthusiastic about the jokes than you are? Do you criticize people often? Do you find fault with others? Do you pressure people into acting or behaving in a certain way? Do you pressure people into doing things they aren't comfortable with? If you answered "yes" to any of those questions, it's possible you are engaging in some bullying behaviors. The good news is, once you are aware of it, you can work on changing it, should you choose.