How do I know if I'm a bully?

I think the best way to know if you're a bully is to reflect on how you treat others. The easiest way to be a bully without knowing it is to accidentally make a joke that hurts someone else's feelings. I once made a joke where I called my friend "not funny" because I thought it was such an outrageous thing to say and that I said it sarcastically enough for my friend to know I didn't mean it, but apparently my friend, the FUNNIEST person I know, is actually really insecure about whether or not their jokes are funny, and I had accidentally made them feel worse. Long story short, the best way to know is to ask your friends/check in with them about how your actions make them feel. I hope this helps!

If you make fun of someone repeatedly, make them cry, make them feel horrible, then that could very well label you as a bully. There are other ways one could be labeled as a bully, but those are the most parts. Others may include, making others strongly dislike them, encouraging harmful behavior towards them, making fun of their body, their skin imperfections, or even making them feel lesser about themselves than they did before. There are a ton more but I want to keep this short so it doesn't inconvenience you. If you are just a person that tells the truth, don't be ashamed.

Titled "Survival of the Fittest and the Sexiest," the study by researchers at Simon Fraser University in British Columbia, Canada, also found that bullies had the lowest levels of depression, the highest levels of self-esteem and the highest social status. There are a few key differences, though: Male bullies come in all shapes and sizes, from the popular football captain to the social outcast, while female bullies tend to be the popular girls (another factor that may help them escape punishment). What is Low Self-Esteem? Low self-esteem is when someone lacks confidence about who they are and what they can do. They often feel incompetent, unloved, or inadequate. People who struggle with low self-esteem are consistently afraid about making mistakes or letting other people down.

If you are a bully, it isn’t too late to apologise and change your ways to become a better person, however if you are not sure, here are some questions you can ask yourself: 1.) Have I ever repeatedly hurt someone physically? 2.) Do I say or do anything that could be triggering to them repeatedly? 3.) How would I feel if they treated me how I treat them? 4.) If I am engaging in banter, is everyone enjoying it, joining in and feels okay with it? 5.) Do I insult someone repeatedly? 6.) Do people feel safe around me? 7.) Would I say these things to people I care about regularly? 8.) Is it my fault? If you are questioning it though, it shows you can admit your flaws and want to be a good person, which is a good sign and shows you are caring.

If you're physically and mentally hurting someone or causing people to feel disturb or distrought, are many stereotypes for a bully.

Think on you ways of thinking rather than actions, then on the combination of both thinking and action.

It could be anything from Sending Mean messages online to hitting someone, if you know they are getting hurt from it then more than likely you are bullying them!

If you put others down to make yourself feel better, if you purposefully say mean negative things to them, if you feel good about putting them down.

If you find yourself deflecting your frustrations onto other people in the way of violence or ultimatums you might be a bully

If you're being mean to another person, you're turning them down, hitting them or not caring about their feelings.