How can I help bullies feel better without having to put someone down?

I went from being bullied to becoming a bully. In my case I grew up in a violent and aberrant household and talking about these things was a "sign of weakness" as I'm exposing my own anxiety and insecurities to the world. Everyone is different. What helped for me simply having a friend I can trust to talk about these things with; without the fear of being judged or ridiculed. That is absolutely crucial! Showing compassion to a bully can help exponentially; the bully may not want to talk to someone physically but show him/her this site and it can help wonders.

We can work together, by finding the right path, seeing what makes us happy and what has the most effective impact.

I can help bullies feel better without the need of putting someone down by trying to talk with the bully. This is so that I can get the bully to say why he bullies many kids as well.

He wants to put someone down because thinks that it will rise his rating. But when, after bullies, his rating stays same, he becomes nervous. You need to help him to find other ways to get attention.

You could start by showing them that you care about them and you're wanting to support, help and be there for them. The mane reason for a bully to bully is the attention, all they want is attention, and you can give that to them.

You can show bullies that there are other ways to feel good about themselves but also show them what they do it to the other person when they call them names. Show them the risks and the outcomes of others that have been bullied.

It can be slightly hard to say. Depends on the bully itself. If he/she is willing to cooperate, then i'd say you would have to be open minded to the situation.

Let them know that though they may be responsible for their past actions, the past is indeed the past. If you can somehow lead them to make amends, they are guaranteed to feel a lot better about themselves.

By showing them fearless kindness. Bullying comes from a deep fear of a certain person or idea, and that fear is suppressed and expressed through creating fear in others. And that can only be addressed with appreciation, understanding, and love of the human who is bullying others and giving them the affirmation they need.

Give them a hug and let them know that you care! As soon as they know that somebody cares about them it will make them feel loved and will no longer be a bully! I have personally done this to a few former 'bullies' and it did the trick!