Why is it that I can't get over someone who's been cruel to me for no reason whatsoever, just because they were very kind to me before?

it is unexpected so your body has a negative reaction when something is not what you analyzed it to be

I belive it's to cope with the bad that you think so highly and strongly about the good, I was in a very similar situation and i'm still not completely over them, I just try to reach those emotions from all the bad stuff and deal with them. Trying to ignore the so called kind things that was done.

its all about the heart. the heart thinks of everything it sees in the same way as it itself is. Getting over someone who has given you so many reasons to smile is difficult.

Because you see the part of them when they were kind to you and you forgive them. You can't get over then because no matter how bad they do to you will always see them as the person who was kind to you once and forgive them.

For me, I want everyone to like me, so when someone that was nice to me before just complete turns around and acts cruel towards me it tears me up. It makes me wonder what I did wrong, or if there's something wrong with me as a person. What I've learned is, you never know what's going on in someone else's life or mind that could make them react negatively toward you. They could just be having a bad day and it wasn't you at all. Don't take everything personally, because a lot of times it's not you it's them.

In my experience, I found it was because I had become attached to the person before they were cruel to me, and held onto the idea that they could change back to who they were before they started. This idea gives you false hope and you cling to the unlikely event of them changing.

Maybe you wonder what changed and what it was that made them treat you that way? Perhaps you are remembering all the good bits and wishing for those feelings back?

Listen. Give them some space and never forget, you are a special person and you deserve all love and respect.

Sometimes if we are attached to that particular person it will be difficult for us to detach ourselves from them. You will need to always remember just because that person has their good points does not mean they have no bad ones. And if their bad point over shadows their good points then thats not good.

You are clinging onto the memories. The past is showing you how kind that person was but we all live in the present. Don't blame yourself because we are always thinking about the what ifs instead of about the present moment.