Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It is so hard because you have loved this person once. It doesn't matter what happened, but you can't just switch off feelings. It's so hard at all because there are still and there will be always feelings for this person, even if it isn't anymore love.

I guess its so hard because, even though you might have been friends before, its just not possible to get back on that friendship level, at least not right after the breakup. So you two try, and maybe for one of you it's easier cause they were the ones who broke up, but you can't just switch off those feelings for them. And suddenly you don't even know how to talk to them anymore, is it okay to compliment them? Can you still call them by their nicknames? Is it weird to say good night and sleep well, or not? I think you were just so used to talking to them in a certain way, that its hard to just change that from one day to the other, and its hurting you, because talking to them in a neutral or friendship kind of way just reminds you of your loss.

It is hard, because for a while after a break up there has been a break in trust. It is possible to stay friends, but you will need a little space and time to heal. A potential friendship is possible because you likely had things in common which brought you together romantically. However, there is no pressure either way. Usually these things have a way of working themselves out.

There is always going to be memories, be it good or bad. Seeing an ex or hearing their voice tend tends to bring those feelings and memories back to the surface.

There may still be feelings or hidden anger/confusion (depending on the breakup) sometimes it's easy to be friends with an ex and sometimes it's hard

It's so hard to talk to a ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend because of how close we once were. They know about everything about us. We get choked up from the time we start to talk to the time we stop talking, finding it hard to have a steady conversation. The best thing to do is to wait for them to come to you

Because when you speak to them you can easily be reminded of your past with them, and may miss that. You may see the things you used to love in them and want them back, or just be reminded by your breakup and any hurt you've had because of them.

I think this depends on the situation you have been in with this person, If it has been a difficult relationship then being friends with someone after a bad breakup is very very hard, but there is things that can be done, you have to be sensible with one another, and discuss the break up in detail how it made you both feel its like having closure on the situation so you can then move on.

One of the main reasons in my mind to talk to an ex-significant other is due to the memories. When you see that person you either experience happiness from looking back at what you had and you wish you had it again, which in turn makes it hard. Or you could experience pain or sadness from bad memories that really hurt you and you want to distance yourself from.

It all depends on the way you broke up. Your going to feel hate towards them if they cheated. You’ll feel regret if you dumped them. Multiple answers to your question.