Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

That is Because you have recently been in a relationship that is more than friends and it’s difficult to see them as not your partner even if you are quite close it’s still weird for you. You can become friends with your ex but It will never be the same as before you were together.

There are a lot of strong emotions involved, maybe you feel let down or the promises made in the relationship weren't kept.There may still be one or both people that still have feelings of love towards the other and it can be hard when the feelings are not mutual.Sometimes it is just that you want to move on and in order to do so you feel you need to completely avoid your ex, or the whole thing just hurts a little to much.It could even be perhaps you are scared of relighting old feelings and you know the relationship doesn't work.

it is hard because of the moments you shared with them. however if you let go and think of them as someone who knows about you and was a great friend it might help. look at them as a person you know and not as your ex. but before talking to them make sure you have moved on and made yourself a better and independent person. if in the end you are still feeling hard to talk to them , maybe you should take your time and not try very hard to make a conversation . your comfort is most important when you talk to someone

It is a very emotionally charged situation. When you create a bond with someone, the bond never really goes away. It is likely they will always hold a place in your heart causing conversations to bring up varying difficult emotions. It is not necessarily a bad thing to have a hard time talking to an ex-partner. It is just a normal thing in life. I know I have struggled with even seeing my ex-partners. When you love hard, it hits harder when they are no longer that close with you. I don’t think it should be easy to talk with a past serious partner.

I think, it is hard because there were so many shared dreams, expectations and goals that couldn't be fulfilled. There was a sense of 'ownership' and 'entitlement' that is no longer there. You have to let the person be as they are. That is probably one of the toughest things to do, whether in or outside of a relationship. Outside of a relationship, we just train our minds to have fewer expectations. In a romantic relationship, we expect the partner to somehow fulfill our emotional, companionship, physical, intellectual, humour and compatibility needs. And, every relationship, usually begins with the promise of that. So, in my personal opinion, the sadness of the hope being crushed always remains. 'What could have been' always remains. Rosy retrospection always makes people forget why it was necessary to leave. Also, bonds formed and not allowed to decline naturally leave scars..and unfinished wounds. Hence. If both people are spiritually evolved and have forgiven each other and also don't feel guilty, a friendship is possible. But I think these unresolved emotions make it very difficult

I was married for 17 years before I divorced my husband for adultery. We met up quite some time later and all the hurt, anger, feelings of betrayal and grief just welled up. I found it so difficult to even look at him never mind talk to him. I thought I'd overcome those feelings, but there they were again. I think it's because things had never been resolved between us, I'd not been able to forgive him or myself - feelings that it was my fault he'd had to cheat, that I'd done something wrong. Though I'd rebuilt my life and was happy and contented, I think it was the lack of forgiveness and the acceptance that it wasn't my fault led to it being so difficult to talk to my ex-husband. I talked things over with a counsellor over a few months and was able to come to terms with things. I'm able to chat on the phone or text him now, but I haven't met him face-to-face for years. So, in summary, I think it's unresolved issues like being unable to forgive that makes talking to exes so hard.

hello sorry to hear that you are struggling with this feelings don't go away just because we stop talking to people but they do change in time and you will over come this I am sure try not to be too hard on yourself everyone feels the same at some point there will be a time I am sure when you can have a conversation with out feeling bad I do understand happy to speak some more if this is really upsetting you maybe try and speak when you feel more confident I hope this has made tou feel a little better

For me is not difficult. But it can be difficult when the relationship is finished in an unhealthy way. Many years ago, people had longer relationships for social, ethical, families reasons. Today we have tendency to go by the easier path instead of try harder to find solutions. Accept and understand people's felling is a day to day exercise which encounters lots of patience, love, respect and self-knowledge. This practise can be done throught many difference habits and exercises, such us meditation, yoga, cardio work out, reading healthy books and films, healthy food, good friends and many other things which can be practice in daily life activity. GMC23

talking to an ex is hard as it creates mixed emotions and feelings . Also one is not sure how the things will move with the ex. There are always some memories and experiences attached to an ex. These may be pleasant or unpleasant or disturbing, These memories create certain insecurity , One may feel re drawn to an ex or one may feel some negative feelings towards an ex. Also when does a person becomes an ex? only after a breakup. And no matter what, breakups are hard and can be more hard for one partner and there may be some unanswered questions sometimes. This makes talkin to an ex harder as one has lost that trust or bond with the person already . Also there might be some fear about how the ex can affect the person's current life .

I think that it is because the feelings are still there and you realise everything you've lost from that relationship because despite the breakup there were always good times that you shared with them. Sometimes when you still try to be friends after a breakup it's hard because you go from telling that person everything to not feeling able to tell them everything you used to be able to. It is as if you lose the person you trusted the most in the world and that's now gone. Unfortunately sometimes you can feel pressure to make sure that you don't make that relationship any worse if you've told them things about yourself that you wouldn't want sharing.