Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

Feelings from the past begin to surface, and it may lead to unwanted emotional confusion, even if one felt perfectly fine minutes before the chat. Now, they may feel as though they need to re-enter the relationship, even if they felt previously content without the significant other.

I believe some people may find it hard, this could be because they are scared they may start catching feelings for their ex. Or, it could be the fact they caused you emotional scarring that you have not yet healed from.

I have no idea. I thing is like, we were so close to that person that when we break that connection is like everything is different. You cannot kiss his/her lips again, you are not dating You cannot tell him/her about your day, they don't care You cannot have sex with him/her again, you broke up. You cannot tell him/her about your worries, they don't care. If they broke our hear it is even worst. The person we loved more is hurted us. They broke our trust on them. I think is because we use to be so close to them that now we have no idea how to deal with the separation and our minds just tells us to avoid eachother until they are healled, but they are never fully recovered, so you never talk again

Built up frustration, hurt, anger. Self doubt. A lot of things play in to why it is so hard to muster words to those who hurt you or who you've hurt.

As a listener I see that you are wanting to open that box back up that you want to connect again. Maybe it’s hard to talk to them because you feel like they will use the knowledge that they have known of you against you maybe they’ll say things that hurt you because they know how to get to you or maybe it’s just really hard because you had that person in your life one time and you never truly let go so you still have that little little cherry seed in your heart for them

It is hard because you have a negative history, and many of the relationships didn’t end well. The negative history is always there and is easy to remember in the wrong times

As we do had a mutual relationship where we share personal lives of each other and since it is broken and the heart is like a rice becoming a porridge after being slit half or failed down then it will surely be hard to talk to them as it includes deep and hurting emotions

It is never physically hard to talk to anyone. Emotionally - Only if you hold emotional pressure: It might mean that you have some unresolved issues, you may want your ex to aknowledge the pain they caused, or the pain of break up. It is a very personal thing, but at the end of the day, if you want to talk to someone - just call them. Talking to people with an open mind solves ALL communication/interpersonal problems.

You two shared a connection that couldn’t be shared with just anybody. When that goes, there isn’t really anything to talk about. You loose that spark you both once had and now it’s like you’re strangers again.

I think it's hard because we always have some feeling there; whatever it is, something remains still