Why is it so hard to stop loving the person that is not good for you?

I think it's because we convince ourselves that no one else will love us. That has to do with poor self esteem, which is a result of being in a relationship that is bad for us.

falls a bit on the side for grief, denial, a few stages of pain, and then we accept it.. it was only afterwards we see that person was not the ideal one for us, but in other times it happens, it doesn't hurt as much

This sounds really difficult for you to pin point why it’s hard to stop loving the person that is not good for you. With romantic relationships come challenge and a tendency to reflect on the good times or good things with their partner in order to repress focusing on the worst things. Although this kind of relationship can differ from previous relationships, a person in a relationship for the first time might find it hard to figure out the right ways or factors in a healthy relationship with one's best interests in mind. Do ask yourself whether or not you are finding it difficult to establish your own boundaries. Feelings of love despite negative emotions can interfere with one's self-esteem. Do you rely on social media standards of relationship’s and apply it to your own perception of relationships or base it on how your significant other treats you? The best way to consider if a person is good for you is to avoid comparing them to standards on social media. You may want to reflect on how much time you spend with your partner and analyze whether emotional, intellectual or physical compatibility is important to you in relationships. If your reflection points to your need to find new love, remember that true love is meant to be healthy. It is not easy to leave someone you romantically love but an easy way is to focus on your self-care and to take the "grieving" process at your own pace. The great thing about this is that you can find new people, new hobbies, or get to spend more time with your best friend after a long time before finding a new partner. The important thing is to seek support from friends and family members to get through times where we need to face relationship ends. If you would like further support please do not hesitate to message one of our listeners on our site or online therapists who have personal experience with relationship stress or specialize in this area.

because you have created past experiences that have made you feel that way, you care about them and you find it hard to forget about them due to the strong feelings you still have for them.

It's hard to stop loving someone who isn't good for you because you want what you don't have. You're a good person so you go for what you aren't.

Sometimes letting go of the person you love is for the better. It's toxic and nothing good is going to go out of it. If the person doesn't change for you then they're not really worth it.

To stop loving the person that is not good for you is so hard because deep in your heart you feel that maybe, just maybe they can actually become the right person for you. And is always hard to stop loving someone whoever that person was for you.

Loving is completely a hard thing. Easy to say, hard to do. This happens because you deeply love that person to the point that you never want that person go. It's going to be hard the fact that you want to continue loving the person despite of how things are falling. Things like this will get hard, Relationships aren't as easy as we think. Unless there's a change between the both of you! sometimes you need a little love for yourself! the world does not always revolve around us, around the person. If nothing has changed then it's better to end things. If you think there's something good will happen especially for the both of you then go for it. A person that loves you will stay and change for the better!

It depends on how much you have spent your time with the person. It's not easy to move on from a long relationship. Thus, the person might have brought new experience in your life to feel this way.

Well, mostly beacuse its hard to leave the idea that this person is the right for us or that this person would change...