Why is he ignoring me after breakup?
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Updated: Aug 24, 2020
rxnix
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Mar 13, 2020
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You both have broken up, that's why. You are no longer together, hence he's ignoring you. You both have seperated your ways, and none of you owe anything to one another. It might be hard to digest but it is what it is. If you want to talk to him about something, just tell him that. And I'm sure he'll listen. But other than that, I think it's best to just let go and move forward with your life. It might take some time to accept that it's over but it is. And the best thing you can do is to just stay away from him.
Anonymous
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Mar 21, 2020
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Personally, for me, I ignored the person I broke up with due to it being hard for me and I wasn't feeling happy and I got memories of the time me and them were together and I also ignored them to get over them and not so depend on talking to them and trying to show my weakness to them Also; I was busy making new friends and doing new hobbies to keep my mind off the breakup that happened and I needed more space from them as I was they were a massive part of my life and functioned with them.
Anonymous
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Mar 24, 2020
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It depends. If it was mutual, then he is moving on and wants limited contact to make rhe process easier on his side, also in that way it might help you as well. They stop loving as soon as they stop caring. Its one way of the other party showing that you don't matter anymore. Painful as it may seem but over time you will realise you deserve better. At the present moment, you may not understand, like how is this person that you spend time living each other could turn to be so cold. Humans have a way of dealing with pain. Either we retract or we pursue till we get an answer. In this case he chose to be silent
mysteriousFruit05
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Apr 3, 2020
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Sometimes people tend to feel awkward after break up with their partner because the bond/relationship they had involved physical and emotional intimacy. And to avoid those feelings which would remind them of the relationship and memories associated with it. They tend to avoid situations which would trigger those thoughts/memories or feelings because somewhere they are still trying to adjust and accept their life without the person with whom once they were very close to. Everything takes time and everyone has different way of coping up to the situations, maybe for few people avoiding their ex-partner seems to be the only best option available for them.
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2020
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There are a lot of reasons that you might be ignored after a breakup-- none of which are acceptable. Sometimes a guy needs space but doesn't know how to ask for it. Sometimes... it's too painful a decision to live with, so this can be a sort of denial. Sometimes the communication breakdown happens because there's nothing left to say or talk about between you two anymore. And sometimes, it's because he feels mean or feels wronged. Sometimes, He's already moved on before he broke up and wants to spare you the hardship of finding out. Either way... it's not a viable option.
lifegivesulemons
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Apr 17, 2020
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I understand you might want to go back, express feelings. But when he was heartbroken, or he broke up with you, or whatever, he doesn't want to associate with you anymore. That seems really harsh when I put it but for him, it is over. There is nothing to talk about. After you guys initiated the breakup, he doesnt want to talk about it because it'll make him sad or mad or whatever he's feeling right now. Let him find his own life, his own path after the breakup. It'll be the best thing for you too, being able to get over him.
richyShiny39
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Apr 24, 2020
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If a person ignores somebody after a breakup maybe they really want to break things off forever so please learn to give that person their space because a breakup is a breakup and sometimes people need to heal and a little time needs to happen and just depends on who it is but I think it should take a little time before that person is able to talk to you again subject most of you know you are respecting each other's boundaries. As I said depending on the situation it was before the break up this can depend on a person will feel about talking to you and about how long and you can always reach out and say look I hope we can still the friends and then if they answer back make sure you are able to make clear that you mean what you said about friends in case this person feels threatened as some people they need lots of space after a breakup and it totally depends but this is a good thing to do it's just a space to somebody because a breakup is not easy.
Anonymous
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Apr 24, 2020
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It sounds like you may be feeling hurt. Breakups can be a time of confusion and sadness for many. Although you may feel guilty or sad that he is ignoring you, he may be doing it because he is hurt himself. I cannot give a definite answer to his behavior, because I have never experienced a day as you or as him, and I do not know the details of the relationship. However, I am here to listen and offer support based on what you confide in me. I am here to help! How are you handling his behavior?
paladinbri
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Apr 29, 2020
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Sometimes after a breakup, individuals feel the need to ignore their ex because they want to be able to move on. After a breakup, it is easy to start feeling regretful, impulsive, and sad. By ignoring you, he might want to be able to move on and not give himself the chance to try to get back together with you. Breakups are difficult on both sides, regardless of what caused the relationship to end. There are many reminders of the relationship that he will encounter, and ignoring you may be his version of letting you go. This could be due to his own negative feelings, or a desire for you to be able to move on as well.
gentleGrotto9119
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May 5, 2020
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have you tried talking to him recently and seeing what is going on. it can be hard right now. but see if you can talk to him and see whats going on. something might be happening in his life as well currently.Many women automatically believe that an ex ignoring them means it is because of something bad when that isn’t always the case. It may be surprising to you but your ex may be ignoring you because he actually still cares for you and has feelings for you.
Breaking up with someone is a highly emotional roller coaster full of confusing emotions as you know yourself as you’re going through it yourself. Everyone reacts to breakups differently though and him ignoring you may be a way for him to heal from the breakup.
While you may be ready to start talking again, he might not. He made need more time to get over it and heal before he can be ready to talk. In this instance it is important to not make this about you. It is clear that he still has hurt feelings and ignoring you is a way for him to keep his head clear to be able to think clearly.
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