Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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Anonymous on Aug 31, 2016

There could be many reasons behind someone ignoring their once significant other. It all depends on how the breakup occurred. Perhaps one of the reasons is that he is hurt and seeing you only makes him feel sad because you are not in his life like before.

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Anonymous on Sep 1, 2016

Probably because he wants to forget about the past and forget all the memories you two had together. You cannot expect him to keep seeing you forget all those memories all together. 

WaltDisney on Sep 1, 2016

There are lots of potential reasons this could be happening. 1. He is ignoring you because maybe he finds it difficult to communicate with you are such an event especially if you were fiends beforehand. 2. He may be generally rude and in this case you deserve better. Nobody deserves to be ignored and ghosted x

spreadlove9618 on Sep 1, 2016

Are you sure he is ignoring you? Maybe he is just trying to move on after the break up? Or maybe he's giving you the space to move on? There are a million perspectives to everything. Talk about this with him, if you want to stay in touch.

muppetnz on Sep 2, 2016

He needs some space, everyone needs to grieve and its easier to get over someone when they aren't in your life. Its a selfish thing but a matter of life.

gingerbreadaly on Sep 3, 2016

Maybe he just doesn't wanna get into that relationship again and hes scared, dont let it get to you.

Anonymous on Sep 4, 2016

People find it hard to deal with a breakup and many feel like it's easier to just pretend like all of it never happened and pretend they don't know you as it's easier to deal with the feelings. As ignoring someone stops the memories coming back and causing upset.

Jesse1285 on Sep 7, 2016

For some individuals, separation from the stress source is the only way they can cope. It prevents good memories from turning into bad ones and allows them to move on. 

Anonymous on Sep 17, 2016

He may just be ignoring you because he feels not only himself but you need to heal and take the time to get over this. In this situation if he was giving you attention it may be hard to take the time to process the breakup and a lot of mixed emotions could play out in the way of this. He may be ignoring you know but give it sometime and you can either be friends or better off without him 

Anonymous on Sep 18, 2016

From my personal experience, he is perhaps ignoring you for one of three reasons. Either he is trying to give you space to move on, he feels hurt by things ending or he is trying to give himself space to move on. 