Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?
ChrisToListen
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Apr 25, 2019
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I'm sorry to hear that. There could be a lot of reasons she could be acting the way that she is, but I can't imagine she hates you if she is still with you. I recommend talking with her if she's willing to at least do that and do you best to give her time to open up if to you and express your willingness to work on whatever issues there are if there are any. Sometimes it's difficult subject matter and it may take her time to open up, one of the best things you can do is show a willingness to solve the conflict, show that you care about her, and show that you respect her space and her feelings. Though this answer is convoluted, I hope it at least helps give perspective and I truly hope that you can solve whatever problems you two are having.
Anonymous
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May 15, 2019
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i dont know you or what you have done but i do know that u should talk to your girlfriend about this. what do you think youve done to her to make you think that she hates u? was you texting another girl? or was you talking to her bad? there are different things that she couldve gotten mad about but because i dont know her or you there isnt much that i can say about it. im not supposed to give advice but i really thing you should ask ur girlfriend about this information that you told me
LJames
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Jun 6, 2019
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It may not be you. She could be stressed about external factors in her life and taking it out on you. Talk to her and ask her why she feels this way suddenly. Usually she will be willing to talk about it and you're more likely to be able to find a solution or common ground on which you both can stand and figure out "what next." She also may need space, sometimes all people need is space sometimes or maybe you're giving her too much space. The only way to find out what is truly bothering her is to talk to her about it.
cheerfulHUMAN
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Jul 7, 2019
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I would like to answer this by saying "People are complicated". Perhaps first of all you should try to find out if you said anything which she didn't like. If that's not the case then it might be possible that she is going through some rough phase of her life(maybe depressed) and she might appear cold and distant which may make you think that she hates you. It can be possible that there is a miscommunication between you and her.
But if she really means it "the hatred" for you even when you did nothing wrong after you have analyzed and contemplated about the situation then I think it is not your fault.
You should consider talking to her about all this and why she has these negative emotions for you but at the same time make sure you don't over-pressure her. Trying to be a good listener is going to help you and then asking follow-up questions in such a way that make her realize about her irrational and sudden dislike for you.
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2019
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I have been through a similar experience and know what you’re going through. Most of the time it is us (you and me) thinking ourself that our boyfriend or girlfriend may hate us, when in reality they really don’t. Maybe you’re experiencing anxiety or self confidence issues and are seeing things that may not be true. Or maybe you are experiencing depression and you are shutting yourself down and not living in reality. I myself have been through the same thing and I know that it can be hard to cope with. But just know that she most likely does not hate you and there is always someone available to talk to.
calmingJewel2421
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Aug 24, 2019
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Relationship issues are often complicated, it may not be that she hates you, but maybe she has something on her chest that she can't seem to say, maybe she feels she'll be too much, or that you can or will not help her with whatever it is she is holding back. It could also be very normal issues like late night sleep, bad things at work, parent issues, lady problems or just general frustration. In most cases like this there is something unsaid or unspoken. Even though she expresses anger or discomfort with your current relationship, it may not mean that she hates you.
Anonymous
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Oct 13, 2019
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You assume your girlfriend hates you and you were not expecting her to. What is she doing or saying that leads you to believe this? All is speculation until you speak with her directly. No one can know for certain why anyone does anything except the person themselves. If you truly did nothing in your view to hurt her, approach her calmly and request to listen to what happened. It's possible there was a misunderstanding, or you are internalizing some emotions she is showing about something else. At worse, you did something to upset her and cannot see what it is, which doesn't mean it isn't still a big deal. You won't know until you speak with her. If she refuses, give her some time. If she is being abusive, set boundaries. Consider how she can better express her anger in the future, and how you can better respond to it. Compromises and communication are key. Be well.
Anonymous
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Oct 18, 2019
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this is really subjective! for all you know, your girlfriend could display 'hatred' towards you without realising it herself! or perhaps she was just feeling a little emotional or perhaps a little disappointed and/or displeased at something that you did. it's hard to really read someone's mind and understand what they're thinking. if you're sure of this relationship and you want to work things out, communication is perhaps one of the most important components of a successful relationship! talk things out with her. if you've talked things out and she has verbally said that she hates you, ask her why and i believe that'll answer your question more accurately and quickly! all the best.
KateInWV
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Nov 8, 2019
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She may be feeling anxious or stressed. It may have nothing to do with you in particular, but her anxiety and stress may be manifesting itself as anger/annoyance and possibly directed toward you because she is comfortable with you. Has she had any big life changes recently? A new job/loss of job? Maybe a personal loss of some kind with a family member or a friend? Have you asked her if there is anything that is stressing her out that you can help with? That may involve you giving her space if that is what she needs to heal right now.
wishfulBeauty4775
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Jan 23, 2020
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May be because you may have hurted her unknowingly and didn't even realize it.or she may have various reasons for hatred.
She may be having mood swings or channeling her angry on someone towards you . She might be frustrated about her work ,health,family,friends etc . She may be expecting something from you and giving you hints which you are not getting. You could have been misunderstood . She might be possessive about you. She might be expecting love and care that you haven't noticed. These are the above cases if she loves you and you are not attentive. If it's not from above list then it can be a prank or she really want to break up.
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