Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Your other half leaving you is always the last thing on your mind, so when it happens, you're bound to be devastated

It hurts so much because you love them and devoted so much time to that person and that relationship that when it ended it was painful to lose that person as a boyfriend/girlfriend. Over time the pain with stop.

Typically in longer term relationships we develop what are called "soul ties" this can be either because of the closeness we have developed throughout this relationship or due to the relationship being of a sexual nature, we have bound ourselves to that person. Imagine this if you tied a rope around your waist and the person you were dating and the two of you tried to walk in opposite directions, it wouldn't work because you are still bound to each other. In relationships we give a part of ourselves to that person whether big or small. In a breakup we have to find a way to unbind ourselves from the person.

Its not only the emotions that follow after breaking up, but the feeling of loneliness. This, ofcourse, is even worse when you are not the one that left.

Break ups hurt so much because you spent a chunk of your life where someone was your everything. Break ups suck for both parties depending on how bad the break up was and its not easy to start a life without someone who was such a large part of it.

Because we give a little piece of ourselves to them. It is perfectly normal to feel hurt when you lose someone you love :)

When you have feelings for someone, losing them is like losing a part of yourself. Grieving the loss is an important part of healing before you can move on.

Because it means you have to let go of the person you most enjoy being with, someone you were attached to. You know you will have to let go of the good memories and the bad that made you grow into what you are now.

When we feel absolutely devastated by a relationship coming to an end, we should ask ourselves a serious question: “What are we really losing?” Admittedly, one of the most painful things in life is loss, and losing contact with someone we love can be heartbreaking. However, many people decide to call it quits after months or even years of emotional estrangement and physical distance. Then, why is it that couples who rarely show affection or who barely relate often feel panicked at the loss of their partner? Or why is it that a person, who is on the verge of ending a relationship that they are unhappy in, feels desperate and abandoned when their partner chooses to end the relationship first? The overwhelming, emotionally shattering sense of loss that we experience at the end of a relationship is often the result of our having created a “fantasy bond“ with our partner. A fantasy bond is a term to describe an imagined connection a person develops to another person, thereby creating an illusion of security or false sense of safety.

It hurts because we lose the person we love so much. It hurts cause it was something real, something that really mattered to you. And your heart hurts because of it