Why does breaking up hurt so much?
LovelyRoses91
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Nov 4, 2014
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because it feels like you are losing a part of yourself when you lose that person. Being alone is always scary after being with someone else.
Anonymous
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Jan 9, 2016
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Breaking up hurts so bad because the feelings aren't over and a fear of not returning to normalcy w/ the person hangs over you. It's a feeling of loss- but worse because they are only so far away. It hurts because you know it wont ever be how it was- how you remembered it to be. It hurts because for you- it wasn't over.
gloriousJoy07
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Feb 27, 2016
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one of the most painful things in life is losing contact with someone we love.It can be heartbreaking. You get used to that person being around and when things come to an end it gets hard to cope up . It literally works like addiction. Its not just a relationship that we lose , we lose a friend and partner; someone who knows and understands us like nobody else. It also hurts because usually at the moment it feels like you might never find someone who will make you happy like that person did . If you're ending on bad terms, you might feel like the other person wronged you; yet you still miss him/her. Experiencing conflicting feelings is confusing and frustrating. It could also hurt because you think they never loved you. All the negative thoughts , fears and doubts take over our mind. But it is mostly also cause we fear being alone cause we think it sucks being alone. It can be tough re-learning to experience things on your own. In the end i ll just sum it up saying , It hurts cause you lost something and someone that mattered. But someday it ll get better, it wont bother as much as it does now . xx
Anonymous
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Dec 19, 2015
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Breakups are so hard because you're losing someone much closer than a friend. It's like having a part of you leave. Relationships are meant to last forever, ideally. The point of a relationship is to find the person you want to marry, so losing that person is much harder than just losing a friend.
Anonymous
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Nov 4, 2014
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Perhaps for some, their significant was the source of their happiness or a 'crutch' in their life. When things such as that end, one if not both people are struggling to find out who they are and figuring out what makes them happy just by themselves. It's a beautiful struggle and a lot of growth can come from it!
Lightofmoon
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Jul 1, 2015
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Its because when we break up with a person, it means ending the connection between you and that person both.Our human nature is that when we have been with a person for a so long time,we get attached very much and we love spending time with that person and then suddenly that person leaves due to any reason, its a big change we have to deal with.
Anggi
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Jul 4, 2015
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It hurst so much because you've just lost someone that you love very abruptly and there's usually no way of getting back together.
bubblyMemory31
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Dec 17, 2015
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From my personal experience, I found that it hurts the most because you planned things with this person who you loved, and now that you are no longer together all those things can not happen. Another thing I've noticed about breakups is that there is a fear of ending up alone and or not feeling worthy enough for someone. After a breakup I tend to take time to focus on myself and make sure I do not make the mistakes in new relationships as I did in past ones! Take time to care for yourself and figure out your own truth as to who you are and what it may be that you're really looking for in a life partner!
Anonymous
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Dec 27, 2015
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when we love someone we give that one a space or a room in our heart
however, some people we think they are so special to us and we want to give them more, so we end up to give them more space in our heart and more and more
sometimes it can exceed the normal or the healthy level of giving space in our heart for a one person
the much space you give, the much it will hurt
because our heart can tolerate having so much space of emptiness on it
that why its hurt so much
that how i see it
i never get hurt so much from a breaking up
actually i did one time or two times but it was only friendships break up
i used to give my friends a big space in my heart
but not anymore, i love them and whomever i love or give a space in my heart, i expect that one may leave one day and that i must not exceed the healthy normal limits
what is the healthy normal limits ?
for me is that to still have other rooms in my heart for me, which must be the larger room than others room , that i still have rooms for my family and friends, and rooms for my own dreams
the other thing is if anyone whom i give a room in my heart want to hurt me or act in a way i dont personally like; like trying to hurt those who in the others room or trying to make me reduce the size of my room , i accept to give this person a smaller room or to dismiss this person
Anonymous
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Dec 27, 2015
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Because we become so attached to this single person, they occupy our thoughts day and night, we like the way they used to once make us feel, so special. We used to share everything with them happiness, sadness, doubts, fears, goals everything. And now there will be no one to share anything...the loneliness hurts, the rejection hurts. It breaks our self esteem a little. At first we miss that person so terribly, like it hurts us physically, the separation becomes painful and at times we want to get back together again, but we stop ourselves because we know it's not good to us. But day by day, we miss that
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