Why does breaking up hurt so much?

You've shared yourself to someone who meant quite a bit to you- there will be guilt, pain, and even regret when it doesn't go as planned. However, it is a strong reminder that relationships are more than two people claiming to be with one another. It's about experiences, and true friendship that is worth discovering the right one for us :)

Break ups hurt because we're mourning, we miss the person we loved, we miss what we had and what we thought we'd have with them in the future. When you're with someone you spend so much time investing in them and the relationship, and to loose that hurts.

because when you break up, you have a feeling of "what if" that wont leave your mind, and you have "hope" in your heart, and "hope" is something that effects every emotion, so no matter what emotion you feel, the "hope" is right there. Its why when someone dies it doesnt always hurt as long, because you know they are dead, there is no hope they will come back you know, but with a break up, you have hope

it's hurt so much because its like shattering all your dreams with that person.. one thing is when you already build your world around him/her, making believe yourself that no one more worth than her/him the trust, the effort everything that involves you with that person thats why it really hurt specially if both ou you end up in unexpected time..

It's just the process of life really and it's no one's fault but these things just unfortunately happen!

Breaking up hurts so much because you have emotions. Without emotions you wouldn't even be human. Hurting makes you human. Remember that. And remember that when its dark enough, you can see the stars.

Because you are letting go of something you loved so much you done everything together and probley found your self whilst being with that person you shared so much together and so any different amotions it's hard to let go of something you helped buld and now you have to let it go

Whether you're breaking up mutually, you're breaking up with your partner, or they're breaking up with you, breakups almost always hurt. It's because you're mourning a close relationship that you had with someone. Even if you'd been drifting apart, knowing that relationship is over for good is painful. Feeling sad about breakups, even when the relationship that ended was toxic, is perfectly natural. However, if the sadness gets to the point where you want to harm yourself, or it doesn't go away after an appropriate amount of time, it's best to talk to a mental health professional.

Breaking up hurts in my opinion for a few different reasons. It may be because of the feeling of rejection, lonlieness. Etc. However I learned that even though initially we have those feelings as time goes on they dissipate and we may have experienced a blessing.

For me, it hurts because of the loss of potential. Yes, you miss the idiosyncrasies of the other person but you've day dreamed about your future. You've planned and most likely sacrificed together. Breaking up causes you to start your goals at step one again or change them completely. You also start to wonder what you did wrong. Why couldn't this person love me? In most cases, it was not you. The person just grew in a different direction than you did. A tree thinks it will grow straight up to the sky, closest to the sun, but wind and weather and the very dirt they are planted in may change their course. We are like that too. Breaking up causes you to reevaluate how you identify yourself and sometimes that is scary. I put so much of my identity into being someone's someone that I felt lost when I no longer was. During this time, it is important to ground yourself in love and figure out what makes you happy and chase it.