Why does breaking up hurt so much?

It hurts because you've had a life until that point that not only revolved around that significant other, but was imagined around them. You've seen a future with them, a life with them, you've seen your separate worlds become one big conjoined world, and then.. Now, you're feeling like you're left with only half of it. Healing from a broken heart means, in part, learning to grow that other half of you that was torn away with the break up. It's tough, but it's such a big growing experience. It's life changing, and eventually, it's amazing.

I suppose it's different for many people, but if you're the one that's being broken up with, sometimes you get the feeling that you weren't good enough, that you weren't making your significant other happy enough so they broke up with you. If you were the one who is ending the relationship, perhaps it's the thought that it's potentially emotionally harming the person you once were really close with. If it's a mutual decision to end the relationship, perhaps both parties think it's for the best and they can move on easier. However, sometimes people have to break up while they still love each other due to distance and lack of time and such, and it's one of the worst feelings. I've been unfortunate enough to go through a break up while we were both still in love, and I can't describe how I felt, but it was just painful. Very very painful. Not having her with me though we used to be so close, it's just saddening. I've been trying to recover, but it is very difficult.

Breaking up hurts because your loved one will probably not be part of your life and future any more. It's completely normal to feel heartbroken and incomplete. But hey - your world doesn't revolve around somebody else. If you think you've lost yourself in this relationship then now it's the perfect time to find that missing piece again. It's hard. It will take however long it needs to take. But you will be happy again if you actively start the recovery process. Stay away from your ex, clear your head out and figure out what went wrong. Calm down and find happiness in your own life again. Talk to a friend (or even me) if you need to. Remember that no one but YOU have the control over your own life. Breaking up may be the end of the relationship between you two, but it's certainly not the end of your life. You deserve to be happy :)

A relationship is a belief. You believe in the relationship and when you break up it's like your belief was a false one. It's shattering at times because of a broken trust. You trusted that it would last or be better.

Because up until that point, that person meant everything to you. And then suddenly they're gone, with only some incomprehensible explanation.

your break up hurts so much because you opened your heart to that person, you loved that person en could be yourself with that person! losing someone does hurt especially when its your love

It hurts because that person is the closest to you. you share all your things with that person and suddenly when you find out that the person you loved the most has being cheating on you or maybe cause of some other reason you have to break up. It hurts a lot.

Because your losing someone who had an important role in your life and heart, and your used to them being there and without that feeling it hurts.

Because wee get too connected to the past, and its feelings, we forget about moving on and moving forward with out lives, that is one reason, moving on will be difficult at first but in the future this break up will be a source of strength and confidence.

when you get attached to someone like you never have before things begin to get difficult, when you spend so much of your time surrounded by one person, continuously getting to know that person, finding out their likes, dislikes, hobbies, and learning to love al their like quirks it becomes hard to imagine life any different. when you go to the next step like meeting their family and getting intimate this bond you have created becomes even stronger and more personal. It becomes hard to imagine anything other than what you have, and when this ends all you are left with is those memories you created, the good, and the not so good all associated with the partner you once loved so much become painful and unbearable to think about. I guess breaking up hurts so much because you never expect this person that you are learning to love, and growing with to ever leave. you get so comfortbale within your routine and it doesnt feel like it will ever break, and you dont want it to, but when it does, oh when it does, it shatters you. its because everything youve ever known, which was oonce in place no longer is. reality has become harsh and youve lost something you cherished so very much. I guess nobody really knows how to get over a person but time is a healer.