Why does breaking up hurt so much?

You become attached to someone, regardless of how long you are together. Losing someone is difficult. You have to adjust to being alone.

Because it feels like you're losing a part of yourself. It also feels like you failed in some way. Wondering why it wasn't good enough, why you weren't good enough, why they weren't good enough. It puts you in a place where you start to rethink about your entire self trying to figure out what's wrong with you

Just like losing a person, you lose the dream of what could have been with a person. It pains, for you are reborn again, on the inside

It makes us doubt our ability to connect with others and when a person who has been a part of our lives in an intimate way is no longer there, we experience grief over the loss of something that was a part of our life.

Breaking up hurts because we tie ourselves and our identity to a person and the emotions we connect to them. And it hurts especially if you lose yourself in the relationship... For all the wrong reasons.

A man is dependent on the habits he creates. Staying together with a person produces habits, often lots of them. Often those are most insignificant habits, which when ruptured hurt the most. And breaking up with someone, ruptures thousands of these tiny habits all at once. When a small habit, for example, waking up late in the mornings, is changed, imagine that pain and torment of every single morning multiplied a thousand times, with varied characteristics. That is why breaking up hurts so much. And always, it is not a person that you miss, it is his memories.

Relationships involve emotions, so when they end it effects other emotions and that is why sometimes we may experience a time of mental or even physical pain.

I feel like I'm any relationship, you are sharing a piece of who you are to that other person. When you give of yourself in that way and the relationship ends, it can feel as though we are not "good enough" or even that the piece of us we shared is somewhat or totally unacceptable to the other person. It's rejection that causes the pain, the feeling that whatever you gave didn't seem good enough.

One of the most painful things in life is loss and breaking up is the same thing. We are losing a person which is the closest to us, we lose contact with that person and that is the most heartbreaking part.It takes time to heal the wounds...

Because you created so many memories together for quiet a while and you surrounded your world around him that facing life independently is frightening.