Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Nobody likes goodbyes. It's important to acknowledge that all relationships are meaningful to a degree. When we choose a romantic one (being more than sexual), we implicitly say to ourselves, "this person could possibly be someone I spend the rest of my life loving." Dating can just be a sexual relationship, whether exclusive or not. Romance is when we volunteer our whole self to another person, expecting them to do the same, and show each other who we truly are at our core. Naturally, this makes us feel vulnerable; that this person sees and judges our true self. This is why honest and open lines of communication are critical to relationships; no one wants to be judged for being something they aren't. So whether mistakes were made or things just didn't work out, it hurts to say goodbye to such a meaningful relationship. However, the most important thing after a break up, after the crying when life goes on, is to not let it affect our behavior negatively. A weak person let's their past experiences hold them back because of what other people (the next relationship) might do. A strong person makes the past experiences teach us about what we will do next time. Moving on, forward, and up is all we can do to be healthy again and start anew.

People can be perfect you know, and still somehow the stars just seem to be unaligned. You think about all that you could have said or done, that you didn’t or about those 10 seconds of courage that could have changed everything. Don’t you ever wonder as to why you didn’t go for those 10 seconds of courage? Well I do. Maybe cause it wasn’t meant to happen. Nobody thinks about that. I mean you keep your thoughts fixated on the one you like so much, that you just fail to see the reality. You just keep wanting and wishing and waiting for something that’s probably never gonna happen. I mean you still hope against all hope that it will happen one day. But if it was that way, you would never have had these thoughts in the first place. Cause sometimes it really doesn’t matter how many coins you toss in the fountain or how many shooting stars you see. Some things are just not meant to be. No matter how much you want, wish, cry or try. Maybe these thoughts go away eventually. Maybe if it was meant to be, the stars would have aligned for you. Maybe if it was meant to be, against all odds, It would have been.

Because when you're in love with someone you become attached and comfortable. You get blinded by love, you get so caught up with that person you wouldnt want to Imagen life without them, you open up your heart, soul and life to this person. They become your life, your world, your everything and in a split second the thing you thought that was impossible happens. The relationship breaks down, you lose that thing that you made your life revolve around, youre so attached and to let go hurts so much, you feel your heart drop and the pain feels like it physically broke. Your stomach turns and drops and you can feel it. like all the butterflies just died. Truth is, Time really does heal a broken heart, maybe not completely but youll learn that some things are not meant to be, youll start to pick yourself up and stop constantly thinking about them, the memories will be there but you will teach yourself that you need to focus on you and your future. I know it hurts right now but time will help. when a dentist pulls your tooth out even month after you tounge runs over it up to 100 times a weeks or even a day but just because sometimes you miss it being tere doesnt mean that it should be there.

I think it hurts because you are losing a person that is very important to you. It can be difficult to fill that space that they held in your life, especially if the relationship seemed to be going well. Unexpected changes can be scary.