Why do you let the person who hurt you occupy your thoughts?

It is hard to think of people who hurt you, it can take an emotional toll. One reason is that you probably still care about the person. Even though you don't want to think about them because of what they did to you, it is hard when you still care.

The closer you are to a person, the more you're hurt if something happens. We think about the greater pains more than the little ones, so the longer we think about a problem that really hurt us, the longer we think about the person who really hurt us.

It's easy to let someone who has had a major impact in your life come across your mind. The question is, are you letting them occupy your thoughts in such a way you regress to the times they hurt you? Or do you think about the person in a way such that you analyze and process the steps you have taken to overcome the hurt from said person. It is about the intent of your thoughts that will produce your actions. Never let someone who intentionally hurt you rule what goes on in your mind. Think of that person as a stepping stone in the past.

Its silly really. You think over and over the reasons why someone hurt you and you think what you could have done to avoid being hurt and what could you do to make it better. Its a vicious cycle

Because he was the person for whom we cared or loved . And its impossible to forget a person whom you loved just because he or she hurt you . One can never be hurt by someone for whom they never cared

Anger focuses our energy and hones our desire for resolution. Unfortunately, by continuing to relive the events and people who harmed us, we only hurt ourselves again and again.

Because usually the person who hurt you is the one you love the most or someone you don't know at all. Its normal to continually think about the person who hurt you. But you have to try and push them to the back of your mind and forget about them. Thats the easiest way to forget about the pain. The more you hurt, the longer you hurt.. :)

Honestly, I don't know - I struggle so much being split between obsessively going over what went wrong, how did I deserve it? and then spinning into bitterness about how unfair it was, how I didn't deserve to be hurt and then wishing they felt like I did. I think when someone hurts you, the 'social expectation' is that you have two things - 'answers' and 'fairness'. You know why something happened (so you can prevent it from happening again) and then you get justice (because the bad guys get their just desserts right?!) and a lot of the time keeping I'm keeping hurt in my head and my heart to turn it over and over because feel like, if I can at least 'figure it out' then maybe I can finally make my peace with it.

Because it's natural that we think about people who had a big impact on our life. Being hurted by someone leaves memories, and those memories will probably fade away one day, but unfortunately that person will occupy your thoughts for a while.

If the person who hurts you is close to you then it would hurt and disturb you more then a person who is not so close. Whatever the situation is a person who hurts you not caring about how you feel does not deserve any time in your mind.