Why do women cheat instead of breaking up?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Nov 11, 2024
Anonymous
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Mar 20, 2020
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This is not at all a gendered phenomenon. People of all genders cheat presumably because they do not have enough empathy to end their relationship first. If they were to consider the other persons feelings then they would realize that it is best to end it first. Another reason might be that they do not feel brave enough to end things first, thus prioritizing their own comfort in the situation over the other persons. Again, this demonstrates a lack of empathy for the other person. I personally believe it is bare minimum human decency to break up with someone first in these situations.
Waka
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Mar 21, 2020
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People cheat for lots of reasons. Fear of confrontation, dishonesty to the self, wanting to escape to a different fantasy, low self esteem, boredom, or external factors where they cannot formally leave. Other times, the second relationship was formed because the other party is not aware they are drifting into an affair boundary with a colleague or a friend they had spent too much time with. Another may be because they see marriage or relationship as a set of duties they tick off and then they can "go have fun."
Of course, some people just don't care but most of these people are not within the norm.
Anonymous
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Apr 30, 2020
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Wow that's tough to say and unfair to generalise it on women. But people cheat because they can. Their morals are weak. In today's world it is very tough to find stable relationship. It's very important to have trust. I wish people can communicate fully and be honest with each other. But men cheat too. We can't put this fully on the women. People have different needs and sometimes physical needs and sometimes emotional needs. They just want instant gratification. It can made easy by good communication skills and build trust. I just want everyone to be happy.. thanks.
Anonymous
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May 9, 2020
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Women may cheat instead of breaking up because they feel that they aren't in a happy relationship, but are too nervous or anxious to tell their partner. They may also have just felt that they have made a mistake, and that it wasn't a purposeful action. They can also feel very upset, anxious, nervous about telling their partner or disappointed in themselves for what they feel they have done is very wrong and will ruin the relationship that they are in if they are happy in that relationship with their current partner. They don't feel that they can talk about it.
Anonymous
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May 15, 2020
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It is not always a woman who cheats man do it too and if sources are to be believed men do it more than women do but that is not we must focus on. Cheating has nothing to do with gender but there are quite a lot of signs that come in handy such as putting a lock on the phone, getting anxious when the partner takes their phone, hiding details while going out by saying something like "this is a new friend, you don't know about them", not wanting to have heart-to-heart conversations, avoiding/getting annoyed when the partner initiates cuddling, kissing, etc. and these sign must be taken into consideration (if any). Also, the fact as to why they cheated in the first place comes into the picture too because different people have different reasons to do so. However, neither of them can justify this behavior. In my opinion, cheating is inhumane. It is better to leave your partner than to cheat on them. And I highly believe that most of the partners instead of breaking up cheat in their relationship because they don't wanna leave their partners but they also wanna cheat out of infatuation, attraction, and whatever the reason maybe.
Anonymous
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Jun 13, 2020
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In general the question is more why do people cheat...Its about lack of integrity for the most part. People fear facing hard conversations, fear change, wanting vs need and truly just lack of that integrity. not everyone cheats or causes betrayal to another person. Some people have high values and morals and see it as something much bigger then just an act. With the opportunities much more available this day and age people absolutely hide behind that and live in a false reality. Everyone is different. Everyone has their own reason why they cheat or betray but it just comes down to your inner self. I hope people truly know its never about the spouse or partner its about the betrayer.
apd4438
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Jun 19, 2020
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There are various reasons as to why a woman may choose to seek affection outside of the relationship and become romantic with someone other than her partner rather than just breaking up. Sometimes, the cheating isn't exactly planned and is a "spur of the moment" encounter (she gets drunk at a bar and hooks up with someone, she runs into an old flame and things go too far, etc). In these instances, she didn't break up with her partner because the cheating occurred before she even thought about the consequences of her actions. In other cases, breaking up with her current partner may not be something she really wants to do, so she may choose to continue to cheat while still remaining in a relationship with the person she has deep feelings for. A woman may also cheat if she is simply scared of the breakup itself; she may know that it is going to be painful or hurtful for her, and she may be putting it off for as long as possible.
Anonymous
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Jun 20, 2020
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When they get into a relationship they find certain amount of comfortability, they love the attention and the chemistry so everything seems fine at start. But with time they tend to want the same kind of spark that was there during the starting, so they search for it and thus they cheat.
But, even then they know that its just a short lived relation, so their constant is the relationship and not the person whom they cheat with.
Its not only about women but, humans in general. So if something like that bothers you, make yourself clear and get out of the emotional drainage.
Anonymous
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Sep 9, 2020
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I think that women or men cheat is due to lack of self confidence. It is one of the many reasons as to why people cheat. Some people cheat because they do not want to commit and do it, instead of telling the other partner upfront. Others cheat related to poor self esteem and self confidence. They cheat with others because they feel that "they are not good enough" for their partner. It is an insecurity and that they need validation from other people instead of their significant other that they are with. That is why some men and women cheat on their significant other.
Alphacookiecat11
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Sep 16, 2020
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Sometimes women cheat because they don't want to hurt the person they are dating, or because they are using you. They don't understand how much it can hurt someone that they are dating and they just do it. Others do it just to be spiteful, or to test their limits. If you have a suspicion someone us cheating on you, I'd break up with them, because no one deserves to be cheated on like that. JUst try not to get in a relation ship with a toxic person, it is bad for anyone, espically sensitive people. Or dont listen to me your choice
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