Why do women cheat instead of breaking up?
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Ciara2507
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Aug 27, 2021
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Oh, that is such a great question! A little vague, but I will go with it.
First of all: a quick about me, so you get where I am coming from. I am a 17-year-old child of divorce, which ended in cheating.
So! Why do women cheat? I would argue it is not just women, but I will go with you on this. People cheat for a number of reasons. Greed, pride, lust, passion, resentment, desperation, entitlement, lack of self-esteem.
In my humble opinion, cheating and breaking up are actually two completely different outcomes of two completely different issues.
Cheating implies a lack of respect and a sense of self-importance. Break-ups imply respect on behalf of the dumper to the dumpee. Cheaters often think that they can cheat and continue in their relationship, which means that cheating is not the product of anything the other person did or did not do.
Breaking up is more about the pairing itself, not the person who cheats.
TLDR: It isn't just women who cheat, and cheating and breaking up are super different.
I am here if you need to talk.
Ciara
Anonymous
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Oct 15, 2021
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I don't see this as a gender specific problem. I think some women cheat and some men cheat. Why they cheat instead of breaking up and starting a new relationship can have many different reasons. Sometimes they do it because they just like the thrill but at the same time they want to keep the "stable" relationship in which they are. So the reason can be selfishness, or it can be cowardice of not having the courage to tell the truth. In any way, it is disregarding their partner's feelings, whether they find out the relationship or not. Some people find confidence in the fact that they are attractive to other people, some seek validation. Whatever the reason is, it isn't nice and they should ask themselves if this was the other way around, if their partner was cheating, how would they feel?
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2021
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because going through the process of breaking up and its damage are unfixable and very sad, haunting to the one whose heart's been broken. So to avoid hurting each other feelings, she chose to cheat and it's obviously secret so she won't hurt anyone's feeling at that moment.
comfortingGrotto906
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Dec 4, 2021
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Can have many reasons. Not specific. But i can say some don't like the way they thinks to be treated by the men, some go for money, some don't think their men like them according to their expectations, some women just stay in relationship because of the wealth and some don't cheat. But everyone has different view and belief system towards life, some people think this is life and we won't get this lifestyle again so just have fun with the life and have many relationships as we want whereas, some believe it is hard to find your soulmate or someone you love so just spend the rest of the life being with them. It's the society who taught us that cheating with someone is not good but some people have different views.
KristinaJ86
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Feb 20, 2022
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I think that people, in general, cheat because they are unable or afraid of speaking what they truly feel to their partner. They are unable to express the things that they are dissatisfied with and might think that their partner is not willing or is unable to change. It is never a good idea to cheat to get out of a relationship. Both parties end up getting hurt. The one who cheats is left with the guilt of cheating and the person who is cheated on is hurt by their actions. It is best to communicate and put everything out in the open. Breaking up will be less detrimental than cheating.
WintersZee23
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Apr 10, 2022
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I am led to believe that cheating is something that both women and men do. I think that it can be for many reasons, they might still love the person they're in a relationship with, but just don't get something from it that they do in the other. Or they might be afraid to lose the person, which is ironic as cheating will most likely be one of the main reasons to have lost someone. They could be cowardly and don't have the strength to end it with the person. It's not about the person with them, they tend to have many insecurities and seek attention.
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