Why do we tend to keep wanting to go back to the person who has hurt us the most?

Because that's just human nature. I think subconsciously we find pleasure in pain, including heart-broken type of pain. It could also be our ego that tells us that this person will love you eventually --so it's more to prove a point. It could also be a confidence-issue. When you're dependent on someone and they hurt you, you don't feel worthy enough so you keep coming back to this person that you know will stay with you (even they hurt you).

Because it is human nature for things to work right. And if something wasn't right you sub consciously feel the need to go back and correct it. What has helped me is that I started focusing on myself and not the other person. Because when they leave you, they continue to grow and you don't. So if you focus on yourself and do what is good only for you and your life goals you will grow. And that is how to get over your EX and become the person you want to be!!! Focus on you, you will feel better. The worst that can happen is they see you working on you and they want you back. Godbless

I think its because of the memories with them. even though they hurt us, we still remember the good times and thought "maybe he/she is not as bad as i thought" and you consider to go back to them.

The person who can hurt us the most.. hurt us because of how much they mean to us. It hurts because we care what they say or do. We opened our hearts to them enough to get vulnerable.

Humans tend to go for comfort. We are attracted to things that we know. When somebody hurts you, you've been allowing yourself to think that nobody else out there will like you. That said person who hurt you are the only one who could put up with you. You know them and in fear of being hurt by someone else we just tend to go back to the usual toxic relationship.

Because the person who once hurt us the most used to be a person that we used to trust the most. We expect that person to be the same, but they usually never are.

Often the people who are able to hurt us most are the people closest to us. Partners, family members, close friends. Rejection by these people can be extremely painful, and we can desperately want to reconcile these feelings, fix these relationships. But it is important that we let go of them, otherwise we will not be able to move on with out lives.

Fear of starting over is a big one. Its so much easier togo back to someone you once had because you are familiar with them and your relationship with that person. There is less unknown to worry about which in a way makes it a less risky situation than to start something entirely new. Sometimes you feel that you will not be able to feel the same toward another person like the way you do for them. This is def untrue and you should seek out other people despite this feeling. When people hurt us it feels like they take something deep inside of us that we cannot ever get back. They didn't take anything. Its all still there.

From my experience, we see the good in people and overlook the bad. So we go back because we see the good and we want the good back in our lives. But then their true colors always show somehow, but we still go back because of this hold they have on us. Once we distance ourselves from this person we are better as people and more confident.

I think a lot of the time, we convinve ourselves that its a one off occurrence, and that the person is sorry for hurting you and would forgive you if you had done the same to them. I’m in a similar dilemma now, and i can’t bring myself to let this person go. Maybe I’m scared of being lonely, scared of losing someone i love so much, scared that I’ll never find someone as good as them, but chances are that i will. Everyone deserves to be treated kindly and fairly, and we need to remember that each of us matter and that we deserve more than what we think. I’m still guilty of going back to those who hurt me, everyone is. But each of us need to make a realisation at some point that we are worth more.