Why do we tend to keep wanting to go back to the person who has hurt us the most?

Sometimes its difficult for us to forget the person who hurt us the most because we loved that person selflessly with whole heart. A loving heart can forgive and forget easily even if the person has hurt us to the level that can break us. One feels helpless without that person. The idea of leaving that person makes us sad and depressed and to avoid those feelings we forgive the person and go back to them because it makes us feel happy with them, like nobody else could make us feel. But in my opinion, this is not good. Doing such thing will only get us more and more hurt and this is just not a right thing to do to yourself. One should learn to let go...

Well, sometimes, it usually seems like that person was a good person before, and they filled the void in your heart that was always empty. Once they leave, you feel empty and alone again. You feel as if no one is there for you anymore. I have been through this feeling, and I still feel it right now. I question why they have left, what I have done wrong, things like that. I try to make up reasons for them to speak to me, but to no avail. Mostly, you usually go back to those people because you're stuck in the past when they have loved you and you deny the fact that they no longer enjoy your company. You keep reminiscing, not being able to find someone else to replace that person.

While the person is the one who hurt you the most, they're often the one who made you care about them the most. People keep saying that "they changed" but people don't change; they show you what they want you to see and then when you're hooked, they show you everything else and emotionally manipulate you. Some people don't realise that they're doing it but those that do, will do it the worst. I don't know exactly what you're referring to so this is only an example of what it could be that you're going through.

Only those who are important to us can hurt us the most. If you didn't care they wouldn't have hurt you as much as they did and those feelings aren't easily turned off. Eventually there will come a time when you realise that although you loved them, and probably always will, you can live without them.

it could be that we aren't trusting of the future, obviously because it is unknown, truth is you have to want better for yourself and be patient. Don't give up and look back too soon, be open to something better and don't be afraid.

Sometimes when you been hurt once to many times you, you start to be okay with people treating you like shit. Because sometimes pain is all we know so we think it's normal and we accept it.

Because some where or the other we know that we still like them. No matter how much they hurt us, we always want to give in because we tend to believe that they deserve it and that they're going to change. Don't worry, you're not alone.

Someone who has made such a deep emotional impact on us is hard to let go of. We might want answers, or a reason for the anguish this person put us through. Until You come to terms with yourself about a person that has wronged you, .... that person may constantly be on your mind.

because we need to learn something; and until we do we are locked in that relationship. Mind you, even if the faces and the names change, we will go back to the same situation until we figure out what we need to learn

The person who hurts us the most is usually the person that we put above all other aspects of our life and love unconditionally. At the beginning it may not seem like leaving is the right option, but changing ourselves for them because we believe that it is us who is causing ourselves the pain. We go back to the people who hurt us the most because we always hope that deep down they will realize what pain the caused us and when they do, stop hurting us and love us unconditionally as we do with them.