Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

This is a very common issue. First of all do not judge yourself. We all have been through that process, and finding out the root cause of it, could take time. Most of the times we were raised witnessing some sort of behaviors in -maybe- our parents relationship, or other people around us; so we are used to what is familiar to us. Noticed how I said "what is familiar to us" and not what is actually healthy for us. You have to sit down with yourself and think about what is it that it is making you take steps back and not moving on. Breaking a pattern can be challenging, but long term can make your life better. Think about what is familiar to you and what could be healthy.

My personal experiences are that we are used to being treated that way that it's like a bad habit we can't kick. That he think you love the person because of the good points or because of the reason that you first fell in love with them because you think they can become that again but you have to remember that is just the shell that they feed you in the first place until they know they have you. I've been told by a few places not only the refuge I ended up in that these types of men/ women pray upon people with big hearts, forgiving nature's andthat are caring. That doesn't mean not to be these things it just means to guard your heart and two step away if you feel something isn't right within the first few months.

It'd be because you cant escape from him. May be not because you love him so much or you can't live your life without him but because you feel "guilty" to start breaking up with him. I have also faced like that kind of situation. You may be afraid of becoming a bad person when you start breaking up. You might also be afraid of what other people will judge about you behind you. Or another possibility of going back to toxic relationship can be like we might think that we can change that person's behaviour. We may try to believe that he or she can change his bad characters because that person loves you. And we are waiting for him and going over and over again back to toxic relationships. Another possibility is that you feel so sorry about break up that you easily get back together with your partner when he or she comes to apologize you.

In simple terms, it could just be that you are experiencing Stockholm syndrome. Sometimes, you are so used to being in a bad situation that changing is terrifying so you continue to run back to the person you know will hurt you because at least you KNOW what's coming. Or maybe you tend to gravitate toward abuse. There can be so many factors that contribute to this, but the most important thing to say on this topic is this: You deserve better. You need to know your value, respect yourself, and find someone who values and respects you as an equal.

You might be in a low place, maybe thinking that you aren't good enough for anyone else. If you know that this person is toxic and not really good for you, you might be lonely and not feeling yourself. Ask yourself if you blame you for not realizing what you were getting yourself into. Do you think that it's you who's the problem? Asking yourself these questions might help you find the answer. Maybe you're looking for affirmation. Do you want to know if you're still enough for this person? Do you feel alone and want anyone, even if it means settling for less?

Sometimes we go back to our toxic relationships hoping that the person has changed and will treat or love you better so you are drawn back to them for clear validation hoping they did love you.For others, they go back because they know the pattern their partner plays, they understand there toxic game so they are at ease with this rather than finding someone else who is quite unpredictable which admittedly is quite frightening. It's hard to just stop loving someone no matter how toxic so the care you hold for them takes you back to them.All in all there is always hope for those in this situation all the while remember to put yourself first.

There will be two possible reasons why you kept going back despite knowing the fact that is a toxic relationship. First is, you were afraid that after you left. You will never met someone who will love and accept you. We are afraid that staying in the toxic relationship will somehow give us the feeling of security and love but no. The right person eill come at the right time and the right place. We should never be in a relationship wherein you never grow as a person and you never grow as a couple. Couples who seems to have longer relationships has the most challenging situations. You should know when is the time to give up and help find yourseld again that you once lose because of loving that person. Second is, you think he is the only person that could ever give you love. Some people stay because they are longing for someone to love them. They are looking for that love that thry cannot get from their family and friends. More of acceptance. But remember, never lose yourself in completing your partner. Both of you should complete each other, help, grow, and develop together. Relationship works because two people decided to give their best and efforts. It will never work on one sided.

I keep going back to my toxic relationship because its comfortable. I know him, I understand him, and he understands me. He tells me its different this time. That he's changed and he'll try harder and it'll be so much better this time around, and because I trust him, I come back, expecting a change. The change never happens though, as the old routine comes back slowly but surely, and soon you're back where you started. So you end it again but he comes right back with the words you hear every time but also believe every time, and you take him back, knowing deep down that it'll come back to you being hurt, but not caring because in those moments he gives you the attention and love you deserve. And thats enough for the time being. Thats not right, we should all stop

Returning to our exes is a pattern, and it’s a toxic one that can be broken with some understanding. From comfort to raging insecurities — these are the most common reasons you keep going back to your no-good ex. It’s comfortable The world is crazy right now, and it doesn’t seem to show any signs of slowing down. In environments filled with protest, conflict, anger and heartache — our relationships can become a comfort-point, which provides us with safety, stability and reassurance. Even if those aren’t the things our relationship truly provides, it can still feel comfortable enough to slide back into, even though we know it’s full of holes…just like that old sweater you had to throw away 10 years too late. Obsessed with validation Relationships can get competitive, and we can even come to see the life we’re building with a toxic partner as a bit of a “challenge” to overcome. When that relationship breaks down, we might still feel as though we have something to prove (either to the other person or ourselves). In that state of mind, we become tempted by the idea of picking up where we left off. As though that somehow validates all the obvious mis-match going on. Easier than starting over Believe it or not, sheer laziness is another common reason that people go running back to partners and spouses they know aren’t a good fit. Even when things are toxic and scary, going back to something you already know how to deal with seems like an easier deal than starting over with someone new. The problem there, though, is that it’s not easier; because you’re putting in even more emotional labor, being unhappy and existing in a state of conflict and pain. Failed visions of love Ask three separate people what “true love” means to them and you’ll probably get 3 separate answers. We all see love in different ways, and we all want different things from our partners and from our relationships. When these ideas of love are bent, broken or skewed, however, it can seriously impact our partnerships. It can also force us back into relationships that are filled with misery or are otherwise an unhappy fit. Unresolved trauma Trauma has a funny way of coming up time and time again until we find the courage to face it. The same is true for relationship trauma, and the thousands of constant battles we always seem to be waging against the past. There are those who go back to toxic partners, because they are attempting to validate themselves against the injuries of their previous experiences. There is no moving backward, however, only forward toward healthier partners. Raging insecurities When you’re dealing with low self-esteem and self-worth, it leads you to form a low personal opinion of yourself. These raging fears and insecurities eat away at your strength and make it easier for abusers and toxic people to get inside and take advantage of you. Running back to the same toxic partners? Your self-esteem is probably playing a part.

You're keep going back to that toxic relationship it is because you really love the person and/or you want of feeling being inlove. Another possible reason why you're going back its because you are still hoping that one day, that relationship will become okay. Another possible reason, you keep going back its because you love them more than yourself. If you really know what you deserve, if you really love yourself, you will choose to cut him off in your life even though you love the person because you know your worth and you love yourself. If you really love yourself, you will not let yourself to settle for less.