Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

It's just familiarity thats it.

It depends on a lot of things, but we regularly are attracted to safety, comfort and what is known. So even in the midst of a toxic relationship we know the person, we have good memories of the person, so its comfortable to return to the. Especially if they are our safety network in the midst of a desert with no support. And it could take soo much emotional turmoil to uncouple ourselves from the safety network even though it is toxic so we return to it, hoping it gets better. But then, is it better? Can we take a moment to look 6 months ahead. Do we want to be still in this toxicity or could we see ourselves being kind to who we are, and take steps to get what we want, and what we deserve.

Toxic relationships can be really addicting, which makes you want to keep going back. In my toxic relationship, the lows were low and the highs were really high. I stayed so much longer than I should have because I was so addicted to chasing the high when things were good. I also was way to optimistic that my partner would change or things would go back to the way they were when our relationship was healthy. But you can't expect a partner to change and have to look at what they are in the moment. It can take a lot of self reflection and thought about what you want and deserve before leaving.

We keep going back because sometimes we think that we will not be able to find a better relationship. (Which you will!) You may not realize you deserve SO MUCH BETTER. That is the main problem, is that people in toxic relationships do not realize their own worth. We need to love ourselves in order to know how others should love us. It is hard to escape a toxic relationship when one does not have a good relationship with themselves. If you start by learning to love yourself first, and then you won't have stand for any toxic relationships.

Sometimes returning to a relationship or behavior we know is bad for us but continue to do so is due to habit. It almost becomes a safety net, it's what we know even when it's harmful, unhealthy and toxic. We continue in it to stay in a state of comfort and often the thought of the unknown ahead, if we were to leave, can be terrifying. We return to what we know, caught in a cycle of drama and reconciliation which had no end until we can break the habit. Often our energy is drained from being in these relationships, so we feel weak and do not have the strength to even fathom leaving. Take some time out for yourself to clear your mind, focus on you to gain some clarity-you have strength within you!

You don't know what to do without him/her, and don't realize that you are worth so much more than what that relationship makes you feel like. You are depending on that relationship because you don't know who you are without that person. Take some time to focus on yourself. You think that its comfortable for you, and that person probably tells you things that make you feel so attached to them. Once you end the relationship, you miss all those words they once said to you, but don't realize that it really means nothing more than just random words.

perhaps you feel comfort ib being wiht that person, you know they are wrong for you but, you know them. You have experience with them and they know everything already. To you it seems easier to be with someone who already knows the things that have happened in your life than to open yourself up to someone new and potentially get hurt again. You have reasoned with yourself and came to the common conclusion that it may be bad but at least he/she accepts me back. But you must know, you deserve better! Even if things seem tougher without them, you will eventually look back and realise how much better you are now. How much of a hold over you they had, and maybe then you will finally feel free.

hello some time people do got back to there toxic relationship because we/they are scared and we are stuck in that time and we dont know whnat to do all we want is love someone to care someone to be there to talk to just someone to tell that something to someone or they are just wanting to be that someone trying to change that relationship or try to fix the loose ends of it that would be the best thing i could say why you or other people do go back to there bf or gf with in the toxic reationship have any more question please ask someone for help thank you

Sometimes it’s because I have hope that things would change. I keep forgetting and forgiving all mistakes that the other person makes. I believe that there’s good in that person that I can’t give up on. However, it probably just an excuse to say that I’m too comfortable in that situation and I don’t think anyone can do better anyway. That’s why there is no benefit in exchanging something you have with something you don’t know? Since you already invest so much, is it better to follow it through? At least this is the thing that always run in my mind everyday when I decided to stop.

I did the same thing. It is very hard when you love some one but it is an unfortunate situation some people are not meant to be. It is hard as sometimes it feel as though it will change the next time you re enter the relationship. But trust me it is not going to be good for your mental health in the end. You deserve better and I am here to listen. You will find someone sometime soon that you are going to love just as much if not even more and the relationship will not be toxic. Keep your head high.