Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

Its because your associating that person with pleasure. everything that we associate with pleasure were gonna keep running back to, what u need to do is, when you find yourself wanting to go back, is STOP that train of thought, and then remind your self the pain that was caused by them. how they hurt you. because when we associtate something with pain were gonna run from it. now were human like i said its just gonna be something that we want to do, go back over and over, but everytime it will get easier, stop that train of though where you associate your ex with pleausre and remind yourself of the pain and hurt that was caused by them. and remember you deserve someone who respects you enough to never lie to your heart.

You remember the good times, the moments that you love the most. You need to remember the negative things. Always remember "ex's are ex's for a reason". Never forget that.

because sometimes we want to feel accepted and loved. Sometimes that's all we know about, even if its toxic for us. The need of feeling loved makes people go back, even if it's not in their best interest.

This might be because even though you know the relationship is toxic, you are still on some level emotionally connected to your partner. You may also think having someone is better than having noone, or that you will never find someone to love you again. Another possibility is that as soon as you break up, you start glorifying your ex/or your relationship, and only remember the good times you had. You may forget about all the negative aspects of the relationship, and think "well it wasnt that bad".

The reason we always tend to go back ,is because we are comfortable and familiar with that person, despite their faults. Human beings look for the comfortable and familiar, we seek out. We like to keep things, "Homeostasis"

There are many reasons that may be pulling you back - from financial support, to maintaining the image of a family for the kids, or perhaps the fear of being along/starting over. Whatever the reason, it is not your fault and you should not feel any weaker or less deserving because you can't seem to break away from something you know is not healthy for you. These are difficult acts that require mental and physical preparation, particularly if you are living together. Over time, couples create a "we" identity - this "we" entity encompasses the quirky traditions, habits, nicknames, inside jokes, and other similar things that are unique to that relationship. The longer a relationship's history, the more defined that "we" entity is, and the thought of losing that and starting from square one is daunting. We tend to justify staying in the relationship on the grounds that it is easier to live with or try to fix the toxic elements than start over with someone new. Or, even worse, we begin to lose our own self-esteem (even in emotionally abuse relationships with no domestic violence) and think that no one else will love us so it is better to settle/deal with the current status. Sometimes we rationalize to ourselves that no relationships are perfect. Whatever the reason, you are allowed to feel afraid or angry for staying, but you mustn't blame yourself. It is not your fault and when you are ready, there are many others who have taken that leap of faith, never looked back, and went on to live the lives they choose not settled for - and you can and will too.

Just because the relationship is toxic doesn't mean the feelings you have for that person aren't genuine. It's going to be a tough fight within yourself to be able to stop going back.

We're creatures of habit. We go back to these people because it’s so easy. They know everything about you and you don’t have to explain some things because they already know.

When we are in a toxic relationship, it eventually becomes comfortable/normal just like any other thing in life that we experience often. This is why breaking away (for good) is very difficult. We go back because at the end of the day, it's the thing we know best. When we give ourselves enough time to decompress from a toxic relationship, only then do we start to understand just how harmful it was. Giving yourself time takes an immense amount of strength though, and it helps to have a good support system around you. Toxic relationships can be overcome!

No matter how toxic it was it was once full of love and we gave our everything to it, we are always so optimistic thinking that things would change and love would be like before that we still keep finding love in your toxic relationship!