Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?
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Updated: Jun 11, 2022
Anonymous
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Jul 19, 2018
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It can be a self doubt/confidence issue. That's what I have learned about myself when Ive been there
Anonymous
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Jul 29, 2018
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The reason why I keep going back to toxic relationships is because I fear that I might end up alone if I don’t, which leads to heartbreak most of the time by rushing into things too quickly.
silverNutella70
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Jul 30, 2018
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You already know your partner well and it is easier to go back to them rather than find someone new. Try to meet new people and maybe you will find someone you like better and is not as toxic!
braveGlobe1787
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Aug 2, 2018
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I think people go back to toxic relationships because it is comfortable. They are afraid of the unknown...new relationships.
generousRabbit93
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Aug 8, 2018
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youre used to being in it and you dont want to move foward, you want to stay because you want to hold onto the good times you had with the person when actually the bad out beats the good
magicallyNutella29
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Aug 8, 2018
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I have experience in this aswell. You do it because you are in love with the person. You think you found your soulmate in this person. The best thing to do is just distant yourself from this person and relationship and look for someone else
mitchinthebox
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Aug 12, 2018
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Toxic relationships are one of the hardest things to overcome. I stayed best friends with one person who constantly degraded me and made me feel horrible, and I know why I stayed. I thought she loved me and cared for me. After all, she did tell me that she cared. But she never showed it to me, and it took a while for me to understand that. Often, we go towards the love that we believe we deserve. Toxic people often know just how to dig their way into your heart and stay there for a while. It's very hard to overcome the love and compassion that somebody might be giving to look a little deeper and see the evilness and negative behaviors that lie beneath all of the sweet things about them
You may be going back to the relationship because it makes you feel loved, despite also making your mental and/or physical health worse.
Anonymous
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Aug 15, 2018
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Because you got use to be in the situation you are in with that person and you feel like you don't deserve better (which is completely untrue)
kdrodriguez14
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Sep 12, 2018
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I think we go back to toxic relationships because we are so used to the feeling of being loved and accepted, but we do not realize that the person is toxic and unhealthy for us. "We accept the love we think we deserve" While in a toxic relationship, it can be blinding. Those people tend to make us believe that they are what is good for us, and that can be very manipulating. It's normal to keep going back, but keep in mind that knowing it is toxic is the first step. You don't have to keep going back.
comfortableRose
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Oct 13, 2018
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One of the most common reasons to go back to your toxic relationship according to my experience is the lack of self-security. If you don`t feel loved in a relationship, you try hard to get loved. But usually instead the opposite happens - you feel even more unloved and become desparate. You don`t have to courage to end the relationship because you don`t believe that you will find a better one or you are afraid of being alone. The solution which helped me, is to be there for yourself and trust yourself that you will be ok if you become alone. Focus on your own life, your own needs and desires. Fall in love with youself and become your best friend. When you feel safe and secure with yourself, you won`t let a toxic relationship ruin your peace. You will know that you are worthy and deserve a lot better than that. With this feeling of self-love you will be able to make a decision and stay away from a toxic relationship.
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