Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

I've read some things about this. 1. It might be that you have had a bad upbringing /broken family/ been neglected, so trying to make this relationship a good one is a way to try to resolve the past. Also, it's what you was engrained in you to be "family" and "love" and in a way it makes you feel comfortable cause that's what you grew up with. 2. Maybe you have a good past, but you still can't let go and want to solve it. If you let go you are accepting you can't fix things, it's not in your control and that you are not good enough. Not saying this IS the case, and it's mostly something that happens on an unconscious level. I'm a bit in this situation, so I can relate.

This could be because of numerous reasons. Maybe because you get the attention that you want and dont get otherwise. Or because you need someone else to love you because you still dont love yourself.

In the beginning the relationship was blissfull. As it slowly went down hill you both held on to the piece that made you the happiest. You have to ask yourself now “Is the pain worth it.”

Humans are creatures of habit, and much more comfortable in the familiar than in new situations. So even if you know (which it sounds like you do) that a different situation/relationship would be a better one for you, it is different from what you are used to so you are less likely to go for it. But know that you deserve to be either single or in a healthy, supportive relationship, even if it's scary at first!

Sometimes we get so dependent on our significant other, or more specifically what they stand for. Are they the primary social support in our lives? Have they been there so long that they are no longer just a person, but an actual extension of what makes us what we are? Much like the way a child needs his security blanket, we need that toxic person as a source of comfort even if their actions speak otherwise.

Ideally is cutting off all contact to stop going back, reviewing what's making the relationship toxic and how much you get hurt is knowing what is bad, then you can start self care looking for something you want in your relationship

As said we get addicted to bad things more easily. Once caught you cant escape. You get frustrated, tired you run away but you cannot go far. You will be back. It is addivtive.

Sometimes we get into an unhealthy relationship and become manipulated by our partner. This then leads to a toxic relationship especially if it becomes abusive. The cycle of an abusive relationship is hard to escape leaving the victim with serious emotional damage which leaves the victim to easily run back to the abusive partner. Another theory is that we get into relationships with people who remind us of our parents/family and if they were abusive in any way, you may subconsciously choose to be with someone who brings up those same negative feelings the way your loved one did in the past.

Sometimes it’s hard to let go of what you’re used to. Changes are very difficult but that’s what makes a human develop. Can you tell me a little more about that?

Obviously something might still be there or there might be something you crave from that person that only that person can provide